To buy a step dad fathers day gift or not

[Popsyflopsy]

My daughter is 3 months old and I have been with my partner since I was 6 months pregnant he is not her biological dad but has been there for us both we did break up briefly 2 weeks after her birth as his ex wouldn't let him see his daughter but we got back together after a week and we live together he is really good with her but as his ex is still in love with him she won't let him see his daughter all the time and he then feels guilty when holding my baby, I don't want to scare him but I would like to get him something for fathers day from my daughter, my question is.. Is that weird and scare him off or would it be a nice thing to do? As long as i got something that says step father on it

Its a tricky one, will he receive a fathers day acknowledgement from his dd? If not it could be seen as adding salt to the wound. I would play this one by ear, if he gets an acknowledgement from dd might be nice to give him box of chocs or something low key but if he doesnt i would treat it as a normal day. Think its too soon for card either way..

I think it’s too much too soon and you risk scaring him off. I would be scared in his shoes. You have only been together for 6 months and split for a few weeks of that. Give it at least another year and if he’s still around then it might be a possibility. But it may be best to wait until you’re living together or married.

Do you live together? I would maybe just give a box of chocolates and a note that says thanks for being there for us or something like that but not really make a comment about being a dad

Please don’t. He is your bf not your DD’s stepdad.

Covid 19 appears to be an excuse for many people to move way too bloody fast.

I would just talk to him about it. Just ask him honestly if for him it would be ok to get him a little smth for father's day. Make it clear that it's completely understandable if he is not yet comfortable with the idea, you just didn't want to hurt his feelings either way.

It’s Father’s Day today. Isn’t it a bit late to be thinking about this?

To late now surely?

too much too soon.

How old is his child?

What happened to your baby's father?

I decided not to bother but as we have moved into our new house together and he does a lot for my daughter we did have a talk about things and whether I should correct her if she ends up calling him daddy as her dad isn't involved at all, and it's cleared alot of things up and feel a lot more like a discombobulated family now.

His daughter is 3
And he ran away to spain when I told him I was pregnant and hasn't been in touch since

So you've been together for 6 months and are now living together.... too much too soon.

and feel a lot more like a discombobulated family now.

I don’t think “discombobulated” is the word you’re looking for.

I can see why his ex would have concerns you've been together 2 minutes you were pregnant split up after babys born then hes playing dad to baby and moving in. He hasnt considered his little girl in all of this

I'm guessing it's too late now as Father's Day has now gone, however I would have probably got a small token gesture, something to maybe acknowledge that he's supporting you in a father figure role? Especially as her Dad isn't around.