To all the ladies on here who post about flaky men...

[AWiseWomanOnceSaidFuckThisShit]

It doesn't matter how much he has on at work, whether or not he has childcare issues, if he's being there for his friend who really needs him right now, if his ex wife is giving him shit, if he's scared of getting hurt, if he's not feeling too great, if he's still jetlagged 5 days after that flight, if he's tied up in his hobby that takes up so much of his time, if he's having issues with his WiFi or if his phone is broken. A text takes 20 seconds, even a piss can take longer. Never EVER believe someone who tells you he is too busy. All that means is he is too busy for you.

If you have a whole heart of love to give to a knight in shining armour please stop wasting it on wankers in tin foil.

KNOW YOUR WORTH!

Here here! We all need to follow this mantra!

There are so many women on here under selling themselves, they'd all be better off alone than putting up with the shit they do

100% agree. It's harder to put into practice though.

It's hard to not be hurt but it's not hard to refuse to tolerate

I 100% agree. Tolerated this shit for years which in turn made me feel like shit. I finally found someone who seems to meet the standard so far, and it’s wonderful.

@AWiseWomanOnceSaidFuckThisShit

It's hard to not be hurt but it's not hard to refuse to tolerate

Clearly it is. Otherwise we would not see so many women stuck in these unequal relationships.

The fact is that men in all kinds of relationships - from casual to long term married - treat women badly. In all kinds of ways. And in all these different relationships women often do find it hard to refuse to tolerate it. From flakyness to infidelity to violence - women stay. And they stay for all kinds of reasons.

I'm mainly referring to the early days of dating, when women are convincing themselves that a drop in interest or lack of communication could be down to any one of the pathetic excuses I mentioned... in which case it really shouldn't be hard to tell him to fuck off out of it.

This is very true, but hard to put into practice sometimes

Wanker in tin foil 😁

If someone is interested then they make the time - it really is that simple.

Wankers in tin foil - have another

Exactly👌

I just sacked off one who chose golf over seeing me - having not seen me for 4 months. Very liberating it was too!

Out of interest how long would you deem an acceptable length of time to reply?

If you have a whole heart of love to give to a knight in shining armour please stop wasting it on wankers in tin foil.

This is genius. You should be writing novels.

You are so so right.

I don't think there's an actual time span, each and every person is different. But when the usual level of activity drops and you're in that frame of mind where you're convincing yourself... stop convincing yourself! I had a few dates with someone a while ago and we probably messaged each other four or five days over seven. Then a whole week went by and he gave it the old "oh I'm so sorry I've just been so busy with work etc etc etc and a unicorn kidnapped me with his magic rainbow" so I just replied:

"Hi John, no worries. I meant what I said I just want to take it slowly with anyone new. But at the same time I do need there to be a certain level of interest and to go this long without hearing from someone just isn't for me so I won't be arranging to see you again. No hard feelings, all the best 👍"

Job done.

Brilliant text OP-very classy.

Ah ok. I'm in a ltr but was just thinking if I was ill and therefore didn't reply to a message for a bit and someone sacked me off for being ill I'd think I'd had a lucky escape! Equally I can't have my personal phone with me at work (manage a care home) and sometimes I'm there for 14 hour days and last minute if I'm called in. Luckily my partner has a job similar in nature so he gets it!