Ex partner

[MotherofanangelAlfiesmum2018]

Hi everyone just needed some advice, so me and my partner split a month ago and he was quite horrible to me on the lead up to the split.. but we lost our son at 6 days old in 2018 and with father days tmoro and our sons birthday next month I don’t know what to do, we haven’t spoke since the break up I went no contact and it’s been a month but I just can’t help but wonder whether to send him a message saying happy Father’s Day from our son tmoro and that I am thinking of him or not to do it ? It’s a tough one and I’m not really sure what to say but I don’t want to come of as cold and not message :( but I also don’t want him to think it’s a way of talking to him again :/ any suggestions ?? Thanks guys x

Personally I wouldn’t. It might come acoss as you trying to reconnect Over it

I wouldn’t, sorry but you can’t carry that on forever when your split up and it’s probably kinder to him not to as he may try and forget the day / focus on other things and he may just use it as an opportunity to get to you.
I’m sorry for your loss and break up

Sorry for you loss ❤️

Thanks for the advice everyone Your right I can’t carry it on forever just feels so wrong not saying anything but it’s best left definitely Thankyou I was in 2 minds what to do so at least i know now that the best thing is to not message and Thankyou so much xx

I would also block him so that he does not try to message you in order to wind you back in.

Cruel people shouldnt be allowed to walk back into our lives. Let alone by capitalising on our grief.

Post split you aren't responsible for his well being.
That's the best but - you are allowed to put you first now...
Sorry for your loss op.

So sorry for the loss of your son. X

He is a narcissist and he has been quite nasty to me before he break up so I think everyone is right to not message him, he keeps coming online on WhatsApp this morning which he never does so he’s quite clearly expecting something or wondering if I’m going to message xx