How to support friend in abusive relationships

[Amijustagrump]

Hello, I have NC for this.
DP has a friend who is an emotionally abusive relationship, it has not turned physical as far as I know. He knows this is not 'normal' and needs to get away but is unsure how. It came to a bit of a head yesterday when he was 'hiding' at ours and she went to his parents and the police needed to be called (I'm unsure of the details). How can we support him? He is open to talk about the issues but says he cant leave as she always makes him come back, they work together and he is worried she will ruin his professional reputation too.

We want to help but we don't know how..

Good on you for supporting him as you are both doing.

Please show him this website:-

www.mankind.org.uk/

I don't have any professional advice but I think what you need to do is make sure you are there for him and he can always find refuge at your house. You can't force him to leave his partner but you can offer a support network.

but says he cant leave as she always makes him come back
How does she do that???
He doesn't have to go back.
Could you put him up until he can get back on his feet?
Do they have DC together?
Does she work?
Please tell him to contact mankind, as per the link above.
He needs some support.
Does he have family?
He needs to make this 'real'
He needs to tell people what is going on.
Abuse thrives on secrecy.
He needs to make his parents aware of what is happening.
He needs the support of everyone he can.
He does NOT have to go back.
He really doesn't.
Are they married? Own a house together?
He may need to cut his losses to escape properly.

I'm so glad he has you for support.

Thank you all! So it's actually quite a new relationship, 8 months or so, they work together, with my DP actually, they dont live together or anything though and had no real commitments. He is made to go back as she chases him with her car, sits outside his house/his parents, and arranges work so they have to be together. I think his family know there is issues however perhaps not the full picture. We are very clear our house is always open to him but he is not allowed over according to her so actually encouraging him over is difficult as he is worried how she will react if she finds out. It's so awful for him and we want to do everything we can to help, I'll suggest he looks at that website too. He knows he needs to get out but cant see how

Sorry for all the typos and grammatical errors!