How do you find the courage to end it?

[bitofawimpreally]

I am unhappy in my relationship. He thinks everything is fine, even though I've told him I'm not happy.

It's been a long day for me, so maybe it's just that I'm drained and have no emotional reserves left. I'm shielding but able to work from home- today's work was particularly stressful.

He went to bed at 8am and is still there, so that's 15 hours in bed, leaving me on my own the whole time. This happens maybe once every 10 days, and we generally at least spend the evenings together, it's just really struck me as I ate alone tonight, that I don't want to live like this any more.

My struggle is finding the nerve to blow everything up. I don't know how to do it.

Why is he in bed at 8am?

Ending it is never easy I machine, regardless of the situation. For me it was a case of enough is enough, take a breath, say the words, get on with it.

But I think you have to reach the mentality of that's what you're going to do and get it done

Bed at 8am is a combo of 'because he can' and depression. It's one of the main reasons I'm unhappy.

But yes, I suppose I just need to be braver.

Write down all his good and bad points and what you personally want from a relationship. That will help you see clear
If you really want to leave then get your finances in check and firstly leave the home. Getting away and being alone will give you to time to think about yourself. Tell him you want space. If he loves you, he will give it to you. Focus on yourself and what you want