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I'm super annoyed at my housemate all the time but he's doing nothing wrong.

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LOrchid · 18/06/2020 15:51

Back in February me and my long-term boyfriend broke up (it was a long-time coming - he was emotionally abusive). I had to move out of my lovely rented home because he refused to do so, even though I was there first. He also kept our pets because technically they were his (even though I cared for them more than he ever did).

So I've settled for a room with a live-in landlord as its all I can afford right now. He's a decent guy and really laid-back but I just feel so weird around him all the time. He's doing nothing wrong but I just feel like I'm just existing in someone elses space and it's alienating. The house is barely decorated and very boy-ish (there's just one Superman poster on the wall). I don't have anywhere I can just curl up with a book apart from my bed. The kitchen is tiny and there's no garden and there's funky smell coming from his bedroom. And I miss my pets. I don't even feel like unpacking half my stuff because I'm not ready to feel settled here.

I work from home, sat at a desk in my bedroom, and I find myself feeling so lost in the evenings. I'm missing my old routine, my pets, my furniture, my privacy (my ex was always on his Xbox).

Every time, I go downstairs my landlord is super friendly and always asks how my day is and if I have any plans for the night, and then he'll always suggest watching tv together. But I just feel super annoyed at him for being there and I know that's wrong because it's his house. I hate not having a space to call my own and I'm feeling down because I really can't afford anywhere else for a while.

OP posts:
Cherrysoup · 18/06/2020 17:59

Can you afford to rent a one bed on your own? Are you stuck with a tenancy?

DonaldJTrumpet · 18/06/2020 18:35

This is probably just the wrong house for you. Are you tied in? Could you look at similar types of letting but with non smelly males?

Sorry you're going through this. Sounds like a really shit time.

ScrapThatThen · 18/06/2020 18:53

Right, this is your circumstance for now. You need to get into a routine where you have a chat and a coffee with him for a short while each day or some days, so you get more comfortable. Or one show you don't mind watching with him sometimes. He is making you welcome, and it's up to you to settle in. Do something to make your room feel comfy and homely.

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