Relationships and social media

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Do people post a lot about their relationships on social media or are you very private. I've had people ask if my and my partner are still together because we don't post anything, and my answer is my relationship isn't for social media it's for me. I have a really healthy relationship and my partner doesn't post anything either, people have the opinion that your hiding stuff or cheating if you don't post about your partner 😂. I'm intrigued to kmow what people think.

Personally I don't believe anyone is hiding anything if they don't post, it's just a personal preference.

I don’t post and don’t see anyone else post either

Those that do I feel are rather ‘teenagerish’

I'm only on instagram and post a variety of things, pictures of my family are one of them. Mainly my kids though, but probably 1 in 20 photos has dh in.

In so much as I might say "We did xyz..." about going somewhere. But I don't do date nights, feeling blessed or making memories.

My ex got very upset with me because I didn't put our relationship status to 'public' instead of 'friends only'. Very upset. He said I wasn't proud to be with him and thought I must be cheating.

Since he finished with me for my non existent cheating (I was active on Facebook at the same time as a man I've never heard of) he has removed every picture of me that he put up.

While I was in the sobbing and eating ice cream stage the first thing he did was change his status back to 'single'.

I'd delete Facebook if I didn't use it for work. This man is 50 years old.

(I realise there are more to his issues than social media, but it really contributed)

We 'tease' each other on SM about what we've posted about once a week - if you don't know us you'd think we hated each other. Lol And I suppose the occasion picture (maybe once a year). But other than that we never mention the other.

We have a couple of friends who do the whole gushing over partner thing with constant loved up photos - usually followed the next month by cryptic heartbroken/weeping emoji posts as they've split up AGAIN.

I think constant loved up relationships posts are trying to hide something!

No, I don't post about my relationship on SM at all, mainly because our relationship is fairly new (8 months) and I don't think it is anyone else's business, plus I don't want to be jinxing things. I want to keep it private.

I had a friend recently, who got together with someone and within a week they were plastering pics of themselves together with cutesy tag-ins and messages...very public and teen-like behaviour. This all lasted for approx 4 weeks and then it was over!

Some may post the odd holiday pics, but nothing gushing etc. I often find the ones who are over the top gushy with their OHs on SM are often hiding reality. Another friend of mine is always very braggy, posting pics of her house and where her partner takes her, but I know for a fact (she told me) he has issues with alcohol and she's found him messaging other women! So, not perfect at all as she portrays.

It took people over a year to work out that me and xh had split, and the only reason mutual 'friends' noticed was because he suddenly started posting gushing photos of him and his current 'gf'...the pics were gone within 2 weeks as they'd split 🙈

Me and dp have our relationship status as being in a relationship together but don't post anything about it. If you didn't check you'd never know.

Some people enjoy telling the world about how much they love their oh, each to their own. It doesn't offend me

My h specifically said he doesn’t want to be on mine. I can see why. I always check with my sons too.

We’ve been married ten years so no relationship to speak about really..

Only joking. I don’t do the gushing posts but he’s in family photos etc and I mention him when chatting to friends etc.

My relationship status is hidden, only I can see it. And my partner has no issue with it, we just know what people can be like. Within the first month we already heard of people talking about us because they had seen us out, quite pathetic really. So we both keep our relationship off SM, but we are smitten with each other enough to not care. I love the fact that we live in our own little bubble and we don't live for SM. I also agree with people posting materialistic things, there's just no need. My partner buys me really nice gifts and I wouldn't even post them on SM, just because there's no point

I have so many friends who constantly post shit, and I mean every hour of the day, selfies with bae and all sorts, some actually are still together but most break up.

I only know one couple who does put those 'feeling blessed' and 'my love' type posts on social media and their relationship is dismal - his parents think he should leave and, at one point, encouraged him to see if I were interested ; her friends think he is intense and demanding (he can be); his friends think she is passive aggressive and miserable (she can be); they snipe at each other constantly and he has a couple of friends he meets for 'coffee'. Yet their feeds are full of comments about how perfect they are by people who only know their relationship through SM.

I haven't declared my relationship on SM at all and the only evidence of it is us standing next to each other at a friend's birthday party on their own page.

I have no desire to make any public declarations about anything. Tbh.

Me and DH didn't even become FB "friends" until we'd been married two and a half years.

And I was battling with "admitting" we were "in a relationship" I wanted to put "it's complicated"

I never posted (no longer on Facebook). Though we may have been tagged at events together.

Some friends post small amounts and some post a lot.

In my experience, the one's that post a lot are the ones that are in a new relationship every year. 😁

I only really have Instagram and I do have photos of myself and DP on there but only when we’ve been somewhere special or at Christmas etc. However, it does upset me slightly that he has zero photos of me on his social media. He claims it’s because he doesn’t like any photos of us together but I’m not sure I believe that.

I’ve given up asking him about it now

We both have social media, but we don’t post about each other or our family much tbh. I like to be very private! We often tag each other in funny memes though 😀

My partner has often complained about the same, we don’t have any photos of just us two but it isn’t him I’m just not an overly open/photo taking person!

Mm, I’m somewhere in the middle I guess. I have my relationship status on my Facebook, have photos of us together if we’re out at a wedding or other special occasion and ‘announced’ when we got engaged/married with a post but I don’t generally post day to day crap about him.
He rarely appears on Instagram 😂
I do think it’s a bit weird to really try to keep it off social media completely despite being otherwise active as surely everyone you’re friends with knows anyway, but equally I don’t think it needs shoving down people’s throats every five seconds.

We are on each other’s social media, might post the odd holiday photo or check in somewhere together (I love looking back on memories of where we’ve been) I changed our relationship status to engaged, that’s about it. He barely goes on it.

Its horses for courses, isnt it? Some people in perfectly secure relationships wouldnt dream of mentioning their partners on SM, while others in the same boat post selfies and tag each other in all sorts of old rubbish. I am in the latter camp - i often tag my DP in things that i think will make him laugh, or that i know he is interested in, or when we go to pub quiz, and take stupix photos of each other and our quiz team friends.

I can’t think of anything worse than posting about my relationship on SM and based on those I know I tend to think those that do post gushy nonsense tend to be compensating for a not so great relationship.

I can probably count on one hand the number of pictures with DH I’ve posted, and of those I’d say all but our wedding pic also contained my horse