Is this normal

[iamtheoneandonlyyy]

I've posted a bit recently about my situation.
I took my children to a refuge following domestic abuse. We are home now minus their dad. I'm coping. They are fine.
I'm just wondering if it's normal that I don't seem to be feeling any feelings about anything at all. Some things have happened since being back that I should care about but I just can't seem to get an emotion.
I found out yesterday that we are in thousands of pounds worth of debt to council tax I had no idea about
A few days ago I phones my child's pre school about what has been happening so they can jeep an eye on my child. Within two hours he was messaging me that he had been told I'd told them.
I don't know yet if we can stay in this house financially or if the agent will let us.

I think I should be feeling anger about the money and the break of trust from the pre school but there's just nothing. I'm not even worried about the house. Is this normal?

You are numb and its probably a coping mechanism and I dont think its unusual at all. I've gone through similar stages too and I was told I was dead inside but in reality it's what has helped me when I'm overwhelmed then it trickles back in gradually d I deal with it.

The poster above is right I think.

The preschool has some serious explaining to do.

A report to relevant authorities might help them focus their minds on exactly what their staff are thinking and doing.

I told the manager at least three times what I was telling her was confidential. Had things been worse we could have been put in danger from that, my child won't be going back there.
You're right, I've been feeling so many bad feelings I think I've just switched them off to cope. At this point I'm almost unshockable i think

It's your brain doing its best to protect you. Let it and don't worry about what you "should" be feeling.

Get in touch with council tax and arrange an affordable payment schedule. Don't leave it to turn into CCJs and things like that - they'll be reasonable if you demonstrate willingness to sort it out.

And yes, report the breach of confidentiality.

Did he tell you what they said you had said though?

Perhaps they just said they had spoken to you and wouldn't discus it further. But he is going 'I know what you told them' in order to psyk you out.

Yes he was specific. And it was literally two hours after I'd called her, I suspect she was telling a colleague and was overheard by a parent but I could be wrong.

What fruitloop would then directly tell him though?
What a git.

Unless he was actually there when you were on the phone and it was him that overheard.

Not really sure what you could have told them that he didnt already know though?

In the grand scheme of things, at least you are away from him now.

was your exs name on the council tax? because he will get half the bill if he was with no come back on you if he doesnt pay his share.

Yes I did say that to him even though I was a bit taken aback. I said I have every right to pass on any information about the kids and that it was all true.
But either way lesson learned.
Council tax people have been quite helpful.
I just can't seem to get angry or sad but that's probably good.