Any South and North relationships?

[Frenchier]

I'm from surrey and DP is from brum.

Do you find that there are any challenges or differences at all based on coming from different parts of the country?

With mine, I find DP can be loud and will talk to anyone. Whereas I'm more reserved.

Do you mean a class difference? Not everyone in The North is the same. Birmingham isn’t even The North.

No I literally mean what I ask in the question

Hampshire (me) and Nottinghamshire (him). Only difference is the accent

What differences could there be then? Do you mean rural vs not? (But you get both in north and south.) Climate?

@GreyishDays

I don't know, you tell me, that's why I have asked

I am from the East Midlands and was once seeing someone from London. I felt I was a lot more laid back that him. I didn’t like visiting as people just weren’t as friendly as where I am from. This will obviously not be the same for everyone it’s just my experience. Our humour was very different too! He was always so easily offered if I swore or something. This wasn’t a class this either as I’d say we were both from the same class. When I have visited places such a Newcastle for example people just seem much more welcoming overall.

Gosh my spelling above is terrible, apologies

@justyouraveragehuman

I didn’t like visiting as people just weren’t as friendly as where I am from. This will obviously not be the same for everyone it’s just my experience

DP experiences this too.

Near Liverpool vs near Cambridge. I find him posh, reserved, more precious with his time and possessions. He finds me loud mouthed, overly laid back and too casual with time and possessions! Same with the visiting thing - he is surprised that friends and I walk in and out of each other's houses. He has a time and place arranged for meeting his friends. I wouldn't say less friendly but definitely more formal!

I’m from the north west uk and DP is from south London. He is louder and more chatty/charming and can strike up a convo with anyone when he is in the mood. I’m more reserved but that’s my personality. You would probably think it would be the opposite way round due to stereotypes, he did say Londoners are no where near as friendly and helpful as northerners (in general). I know someone will take offence to this but it obviously doesn’t apply all Londoners.

Since when has Birmingham been in the North, I always thought it was in the Midlands.

We are Surrey and Midlands and yes he is much louder!! :)

Definitley same mc background

I have lived on the south coast, London and the north east. In my experience, you get different types of personalities wherever you go.

Brum is Midlands. 🙄 he should leave you for saying it's north. How very dare you!

Yes there is a massive difference. He'll just have to get over you being a southerner. It's not your fault.

As a midlander in the south, it's constantly mentioned and I am constantly mocked/told I cannot be understood.

There is the standard that northerners are "hard" and southerners are "soft".

Also the further north you go, the nicer people are. I think there are heirs and graces that southerners adhere to that northerners don't.

People have great relationships from completely different cultures so it'll only be a bad thing if you let it be

ExH was from Liverpool and me South.
Only difference was when I went up there everyone was so lovely and friendly. I love Liverpool.

Welsh and Geordie. Both very passionate and stubborn. Welsh is positive about life but reserved around people, Geordie is positive about people but more suspicious in all other ways.

But that just might be us two!

I’m from Derbyshire, DP is from Buckinghamshire. Obviously, we speak with very different accents but the differences between us are more about background & class than geography.

I’m very working class. I grew up on a council estate and went to a bog-standard comp before becoming one of very few people in my year to go to university. DP comes from a middle class, rural / horsey background and went to boarding school. It works just fine, and over the years we have sort of met in the middle. If I’m honest, I have probably changed more than he has but that is an inevitable outcome of my education & career.

I’m a Londoner (working class background) who had a long relationship with a northerner who was also from a working class background. My first instinct is to say he was a humourless bellend who had a chip on his shoulder, but now I think about it we lived in London and he might have been more like that because he was a northerner in London. The chip on his shoulder was more like a whole bag of Maris Pipers though and he would get misty eyes about anything northern. He thought I was “too cockney” and I thought that he was too cavalier about what bits of an animal he was willing to eat (offal is not on the menu at my house).

All in all, it was never going to work out and I ended up marrying a boy from Walthamstow. For the best.

Surely you'd want to know exactly/even roughly on a map where your DP comes from??

@ChaoticMinds can I totally derail and ask you about being careful with your time? I’ve never really thought about that before but I’m wondering if it’s a big stress for me. And if DH is different. What sort of thing do you mean?

Sorry everyone.

Im from Birmingham my Oh is from Essex hes the quiet serious one im the loud outgoing talk to everyone person we get on fine same type of upbringing with the same values in life, shared interests motorbikes and live gigs we get on just fine

@greyishdays he hates lateness, I struggle with punctuality, he is organised and time efficient, I sort of float through my day not being hugely productive etc

But actually I'm not sure why that's a north/south difference!

West country girl and Scottish OH.
We're separated by a common language.
He says gutties, I say daps. (Plimsolls).
He says goony, I say nightdress.
He says ginger, I say fizzy pop.
He says sangwige, I say sand-witch.