Has anyone caved and hugged more than one loved one outside your HH?

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Hello,

We have followed the lockdown rules to the letter. Nobody is on the shielding list (My DC, DP, Me and outside our household, my DM and DF)

We hadn't seen one another for 12 weeks and are all normally very close. My DD has been in tears at the prospect of seeing her grandparents, but not being able to hug them and my DM has struggled massively with this and last week asked, why can't we hug if we're all essentially self isolating? The chances of any of us carrying the virus are so remote. We just don't go out.

So this weekend, we did cave and we all had a cuddle. We were wearing masks, gloves and hairdressing type gowns which were immediately put in the wash. We then stayed apart in their garden for a couple of hours, before heading home.

We all needed it so much, but now I have to say, I'm starting to worry we did the wrong thing

Were we wrong?

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I think you are daft yes. Either accept the risk and just do it or don’t. Dressing up to hug is ridiculous.

We have not hugged but have had perfectly nice socially distanced garden meet ups.

No. But I don't hug anyway.

My son (4) has made a list of everyone he's going to hug when he can.

My son (4) has made a list of everyone he's going to hug when he can.

This is so, so sweet!

Yep. I visited my friend and her newborn. I held the baby, hugged her, and hugged her partner. I have only been out of the house three times in three months and we have not had any active cases in town for three weeks. We weighed up the risks and had a couple of hours of relative normality. I’m the only person that has met the baby outside of hospital staff. Their families live too far away.

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When he's not being an absolute beast, he's the most loving little soul.

Dressing up to hug is ridiculous.

Why? Genuine question. If it reduces the risk even more, then why not?

Nah I think it’s fine. You’ve all been in quarantine for ages! If you’re worried, isolate for 14 days. Then go back and get another hug. Repeat. Mental health is important too. You’re not like the people round here who have been having house parties all through lockdown including letting their kids use locked playgrounds. You’ve done more than enough OP. Your household can include your parents. Have your own little bubble. It’s fine.

I think it's fine. We had been doing nothing for 4 months, then saw my nephews last week and I hugged them. I think it's at the point where we now have to accept the risks but return to normality. My family don't go to the supermarkets, or use public transport and my kids are small so no school.

I thought there was no risk to 98% of people who would experience mild to no symptoms at all?

Yes, I saw some family and friends at the weekend and hugged them, we didn’t dress up to do so.

I haven’t and don’t intend to tbh, and I’m usually very tactile.

Cuddling a newborn is madness.

I thought there was no risk to 98% of people who would experience mild to no symptoms at all

It’s not fatal for 99.5 percent of people who catch it.

No we have not as both of us have underlying conditions.

I think dressing up to hug and being so OTT about it is ridiculous but then Iv had to work through it all.
Kids have still been going to school.
No one in the supermarkets stay away from you anyway.
Iv seen my family multiple times as we have had a death in the family (not covid related) and another family member has been admitted to hospital and needed a lot of help again so seen a lot of family as we all pulled together.
None of us have been ill and I don’t know anyone that’s even had it so it’s pretty much life as normal.

I accept the risk but life goes on so if I catch it then I catch it.

I accidentally hugged my mum the other day.... just did it as a reflex as she walked in the door!
Annoying thing is I'd just told my 4 year old "remember no hugs!" 🤦🏻‍♀️

After observing lockdown rules for so long, the last couple of weeks I hug my son when I see him, about twice a week, and i am also looking after 2 year old dgs. Not hugging him is definitely not an option. However, dd is not comfortable with hugging so we don't.

I hugged my friend at the weekend. Not seen her since March and she lives alone. I thought we could hug people in our bubble??

No, my parents don't hug people they are very british. I can't imagine going up to them and giving either a hug. it would be incredibly awkward.
Anyway they've locked themselves in the house and nobody is allowed in there. We just email.

I have hugged my mother and I don't regret it one bit.

My mum and dad after my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer. And will probably hug my siblings when I see them too.

I'm not a hugger, frankly. Maybe it's an age thing? I wouldn't hug friends when I see them. I've seen my parents and had a cup of tea in the garden with them. I wouldn't normally hug them so I can't say I miss it.

My children have hugged both sets of grandparents. We all accept the risk.

Yes. Look after adults with LD and they all love a hug. They'll find us and ask for one.

Also, they've not seen their actual families since March. All they have is our work family.