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Cancelling??

24 replies

inmyshoos · 15/06/2020 11:35

Arranged to meet someone I've been speaking to for a couple of months for first time today. Obviously a walk given rules. He just messaged to say its raining maybe should we do another day. Meant to meet at 12.30 I've sorted my kids and was ready to leave. Should I say well it's now or never Hmm Do NOT like being messed about or is it fair enough to cancel because he doesn't like to get wet fgs

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Windyatthebeach · 15/06/2020 11:37

If the weather scares him off imagine meeting your dc??
No offence but what a flake..
*snowflake!!
Grinbin him off op.

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inmyshoos · 15/06/2020 11:43

Yeah like ffs what's he made of ?? PAPER?? Hmm

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sanmiguel · 15/06/2020 11:45

Yup I'd go out with the kids and bin him off. Wouldn't bode well for me.

Windyatthebeach · 15/06/2020 12:16

One of our best dates was a walk in a snowy forest with a flask of soup!. Never the wrong weather - only the wrong clothes!
*stolen from Billy Connolly...

Toilenstripes · 15/06/2020 12:20

Really? I’m afraid I would have done the same. In fact I cancelled a garden visit with a friend on Friday because it was raining. 😬

ChristmasFluff · 15/06/2020 12:20

I'd reply, 'sorry you are made of sugar. Bye.' then block and delete.

I think you'd find the weather never would be suitable to meet anyway.

edwinbear · 15/06/2020 12:31

I had a FWB like this, he cancelled out first date a couple of hours beforehand. This proved to become a regular occurrence, he was a complete flake, messed me around for months before I sacked him off, wish I'd done after he first blew me out.

Bunnymumy · 15/06/2020 12:32

I bet he slept in and doesnt want to say.

I would text back 'translation: you have just woke up? Lol. I dont mind the rain but can wait an hour and see if it clears?'

If he still seems unkeen then yeah I'd bin him off.

IveGotFrills · 15/06/2020 13:51

Did you go? Maybe he was saying that for your sake op. Thinking you might not have wanted to go in the rain....maybe?

IM0GEN · 15/06/2020 14:11

Never date anyone who is water soluble.

holidaydisaster2020 · 15/06/2020 14:18

I'd reply, 'sorry you are made of sugar. Bye.' then block and delete.

Wow I don't think you need to be rude to him. He doesn't like going outside in the rain and doesn't really appreciate how long it takes to get ready to go anywhere when you have kids. Fair enough this probably indicates that he's not the person for you. Dating is designed to find out of a person is right for you or not so job done.

I'd probably reply with "ok no worries, we'll probably go anyway now we're ready"

He might decide to join you if @IveGotFrills
Is right and he was saying it for your sake. After that you can let things gently slide, he's not your type... no harm done.

Aerial2020 · 15/06/2020 14:27

He's not bothered or has another option.
It will be that simple

AWiseWomanOnceSaidFuckThisShit · 15/06/2020 14:31

"If I want a flake I'll queue up at the ice cream van for a 99p with every other cunt. Goodbye"

Shoxfordian · 15/06/2020 14:56

I wouldn't want to walk in the rain either to be fair

Windyatthebeach · 15/06/2020 18:08

Where do you rain avoiders live?? Ddogs /dc would be stuck in a fair old amount if we were fair weathered!!
One of the first occasions dh got me thermal socks among my gifts!!
Def a keeper!!

StrangeTimes · 15/06/2020 18:14

Some OLD dating excuses to cancel that I’ve had

  • waiting to get the man in to sort radiators
  • son was in a mini bus crash
  • aunt ill
  • mum ill
  • dog ill

Honestly if someone you have been talking to for months can be assed to meet you because it’s raining. Well there your answer, he ain’t that into you, or he isn’t who he says he is, or he’s married.

Lesson learnt, don’t get invested talking to someone for months, they’re not always who they say they are. 2 weeks max and if they haven’t wanted to meet up, you’re wasting your time.

Lampan · 15/06/2020 23:42

Was it actually raining? If so I really don’t think it was unreasonable of him to suggest rearranging, I’m not sure why anyone thinks that?
Unless you feel like he was just making an excuse to get out of it?
If he is genuine, he probably just thought a first date walk might be spoiled by the rain. Just see if he tries to make a plan to rearrange, and if not move on.

BitOfFun · 15/06/2020 23:52

I think it's ok not to fancy a walk in the rain.

Whataloadofshite · 15/06/2020 23:57

Hang on..

You weren't going to meet him for the first time today with your kids were you?

MyOtherProfile · 16/06/2020 00:00

@Whataloadofshite

Hang on..

You weren't going to meet him for the first time today with your kids were you?

I thought sorting the kids meant she had arranged for them to be with a sitter or something.
Crystalspider · 16/06/2020 00:10

Did you ask him now or never?

torrential rain I would understand but normal light rain, No

I wouldn't rearrange either if someone flaked on me like that.

RLEOM · 16/06/2020 14:10

He's not that into you or has someone lined up who he is more interested in. Maybe I'm wrong but I'm sure he would've made the effort if he really wanted to.

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inmyshoos · 16/06/2020 15:51

Sorry forgot I'd started this Grin

So I replied.... Its now or never.. etc...

He replied OK.. Maybe its not yoo wet, see you soon.

I went, alone obviously not with kids. It was nice actually. And in his defence it was a totally blind date for him, he hadn't seen a pic of me and so perhaps he had cold feet, understandably.

Walk was nice. He is more handsome in the flesh and he smelt nice. Lockdown has been a tough gig. I'm not sure why it's made me feel slightly stir crazy and extremely frisky but I swear I could have happily got within 2mm never mind 2m of him. What the hell is going on with my libido!! Is anyone else experiencing this? It's crazy!! ConfusedBlush

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MyOtherProfile · 28/06/2020 23:14

Just spotted your update! Are you seeing him again then?

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