My dad. I'm in my 30s I'll give you a bit of backstory first.
Moved in with my parents last year due to falling into financial difficulties, I had to give up the house I had for me and my child. I was working part time, my child had an operation that left him wheelchair bound for 6 months. I had to come out of work to be his full time carer.
According to UC I came out of work by my own choice so it took ages to get any kind of money and as a result I fell behind with my rent payments.
My work weren't going to pay me for time off, this is why I left. Not really by choice I had no other option, my son needed looking after.
So, it was my dads idea to move back here. My mum kindly offered to have my son in the school holidays so I could work full time which I am grateful for. Since being back here, I found a full time job and met my amazing DP. We're currently saving so we can get a place together.
In the last few months, I've noticed dad being really ratty with me. Like any chance he gets hes jumping down my throat for even the smallest things and its starting to get to me.
He treats me like I'm incapable of thinking for myself. Keeps reminding me that its his house if I'm doing something he doesn't like.
I'm paying to live here, I buy and cook my own food I do my own washing tidy up after myself. And my son obviously.
If im listening to music, he tells me to turn it off because he doesn't like it. If I'm watching something on netflix, what you watching that for? I don't want to watch that turn it off. If I don't, he turns them off. So many times I've had to bite my tongue otherwise it'd turn into a massive argument.
He's quite snappy with my son too which really makes my blood boil. He likes to play with lego. And dad rather than asking him to pick it up, he kicks it out of his way. Or if my son is on his PlayStation, he will just come in and turn it off so he can watch TV.
Well, its my house. I can do what I want I dont need to ask permission to watch my own TV.
I asked if he would move his car off the drive so I could put mine on to wash it. No, what a waste of fuel.
So after being made to feel uncomfortable being downstairs, I bought a TV. Me and my son share a bedroom currently. We both use it, him for his PlayStation and me for netflix.
Now dads got an issue with us spending a lot of time upstairs. Whats up? Are you avoiding me?
Music and TV are never loud. I hate being in a room full of noise. On a weekend when I cook, I always make loads and always offer theres enough for anyone else if they want any. Always ask if anyone needs anything while I'm going shopping and never ask for money back if its only a small amount. Just my way of helping out.
Moaned at if I'm downstairs, making the place look untidy. Moaned at for taking myself out of the way and being in the bedroom.
I'm on furlough at the moment so I cant escape it. What can I do in the meantime to cope with this until I've got enough saved to be able to move out?
I'm feeling really low at the minute and no matter what I do or say I don't seem to do anything right.