Is he cheating?

[Elly03waller]

I suspected for a while now that DH is seeing someone. And he always convinces me otherwise, when I approach him. Previous to lockdown he would spend minimum one night away "with work". He didn't during in lockdown but chose to work from the office rather than home. Now the nights away have started again. I've heard that hotels aren't open yet, but he says he's staying at one. He's not a key worker.
Thoughts?

Go with your gut.

Yeah I'm not sure hotels are open again! Ask him just out of interest - what hotel as you thought they were all closed! His response might be more telling if he refuses to tell you.

Yeh sounds like it and legally he can’t have sex with another Person not in his household so he will be breaking the law. so ask him the hotel name and call them best to know now.

Or call him - then say the lines bad, hang up quick and try FaceTime him!

Go with your gut hun sounds odd x

@missrks ooooo yes ! Go detective 🕵️‍♀️

Coincidence that single people can now see 1 other household do u have dc?

We have one teen DS at home, are both in our 50s.

I was going suggest u went with him call his bluff but is ds isn’t old enough to be left overnight it would be interesting to see how he would respond? Your gut is speaking out loud to you and he is going to do everything possible to tell you lies to cover his tracks and not lose his family go with your gut

My job requires me at times to use a hotel and this hotel is open for the key worker stuff I am employed to do. So might not be as all as seems. Just ask him!!! He's your husband, why do you not address this outright? It baffles me that wives can't just confront this stuff. You have a right to know which hotel he is staying and surprised you don't know? Ask him!!

I can't say that he is cheating from one paragraph, you have to follow your gut but when I was in relationship when I suspected cheating I never found out but the bigger issue was that I no longer felt I was a priority, work always had to come first, the travelling away from home, after meetings and coming home late, socials.

So whether he was cheating or not I was no longer happy. If he is not making you feel loved and wanted and lack of effort then it isn't going to be a happy relationship anyway and maybe you'll be better off ending it and not having the anxiety.

Hotels definitely not open apart from keyworkers so if he is not a keyworker then it is BS. Ask him which hotel and ask to see the invoice and reservation.

Not true about hotels- some are and you don’t have to be a key worker- mainly smaller non chain ones. Go on booking.com. — I’ve booked my son into 1 for next weekend — some though are specifically blocked out for keyworkers

Wives can't just confront this stuff because they've usually already tried just asking or confronting multiple times and been lied to. Did you not read the bit And he always convinces me otherwise, when I approach him? Just asking generally gets you nowhere.

And he always convinces me otherwise, when I approach him? Just asking generally gets you nowhere.

Category- I think OP should be able to prove or disprove the hotel thing. What he says about the hotel will give her another lead to follow.

If he goes 'I'm not telling you' then that strongly implies he's cheating IMO, so I wonder what he will say.

These types are good liars, though.

@tarasmalatarocks

Not true about hotels- some are and you don’t have to be a key worker- mainly smaller non chain ones. Go on booking.com. — I’ve booked my son into 1 for next weekend — some though are specifically blocked out for keyworkers

Hotels are definitely not open and by law are closed.www.gov.uk/government/publications/further-businesses-and-premises-to-close/further-businesses-and-premises-to-close-guidance

Hotels are open, we're booking them for our staff who are working away.