Freaking out- Coldsore

[Dannyandsandy]

Hi all. Not sure where to put this. So I gave my parter oral sex last night. Afterwards in the bathroom, I realised I had a small red lump on my bottom lip. I’m assuming it’s a coldsore as it now looks like it has a tiny mouth ulcer on it. I have never, ever had one in my life so I’m baffled as to how I got it. There wasn’t any tingling and it isn’t one of those big, scabby ones. After googling it, I’m now freaking out I have given my partner genital herpes because we didn’t use a condom. I’m confused about the different strains and have been in bits all morning. How will he know if he caught it if he doesn’t have symptoms? Can we still have sex even though he might not show symptoms? Or should we refrain from sex only when/(if !) he has an outbreak. I feel so unbelievably guilty and stupid. Anyone have any advice/experience with this?!

Hi op , my family
Member contacted herpes because her boyfriend has had a cold sore when going down stairs . She was deverstated . I think it's called herpes type 2 . If he does get it then you can get it too but your will be type one bevause you would of caught it from sex . If he does get it get him anti viral tablets either from a doctor or online from Superdrug ect . If taken straight away it might not come back . Don't stress too much my family member had an outbreak twice . And it's been 2 years also a friend of mine had Tupe one years ago she had a few outbreaks in the 1st year and nothing since . It's been a good 15 years. Ow x

If you've never had a cold sore, it's probably just an ulcer or rub mark.
Or perhaps HE has herpes and you've caught it off him? Did you both get full sexual health screens before sleeping together?

I understand you freaking out - herpes has a huge stigma around it. However, if you're an adult who has never had an oral coldsore it is highly unlikely that you have contracted the oral version and passed it to your partner.

Oral lesions are a common symptom of lots of other conditions (including, it seems, covid 19 - don't want to freak you out further though!)

It is probably totally fine - monitor the progress of the spot on your lip and I'm sure it will heal in a few days.

I don't think you would get symptoms of a cold sore the very day after getting off with someone if you got it from them. These things take a while to incubate etc.

Do you suffer from health anxiety?

Or anxiety in general?

It mightn't even be a cold sore.