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My bf is an avid Twitter user and was in a band. He'd been Tweeting with an underage girl trying to video call her a few years ago? Dealbreaker?

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weirdtweetsthrowaway · 14/06/2020 00:23

This sounds very silly so I don't even know how to explain it. Basically - my boyfriend of a year used to be in a band and has always been quite active on Twitter.

He recently made quite a misogynistic statement which took me aback as he's always come across as very feminist, constantly posts on social media about feminism etc.

So I searched his Twitter handle and some key words to see if he'd previously spoken like this (weird I know, idk lockdown brain is doing weird things to me). So key words like sl*t, sl&g, etc.

He'd posted to his band followers referring to them as the above, said 'nobody likes a sl&t', but what really worried me was there were numerous tweets of him flirting with a 15 year old at the time. Like she asks how old he is, he says 22, she says she's 15. They're flirting via Twitter and he's saying she should follow him to California to marry him and all sorts. And a ton of Tweets of him trying to convince her to Skype with him.

This was a few years ago, so I'm not sure if I'm overreacting here. He's now in his late 20s. Few red flags so far (hence I went digging) but unsure what to make of this?

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SisyphusAndTheRockOfUntidiness · 14/06/2020 15:37

He obviously considered her a disposable object for his entertainment, do you imagine he feels differently about you? Quite aside from the issue of her being underage...

Patsypie · 14/06/2020 15:43

My feet wouldn't touch the ground. What a creepy bastard

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 14/06/2020 15:54

He's a low life and child abuser. What exactly makes you unsure of leaving him?

Skyla2005 · 14/06/2020 19:13

A 15 yr old child. No get rid pronto ! !

Lampan · 14/06/2020 19:20

Dump him. Don’t bother confronting him. He will only minimise it.
Also, if you confront him he will delete the tweets. They should remain up just in case any future partners go digging (I always do a deep dive into someone’s online presence after a date or two! I would find something like this and be warned away!)

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