Not sure what to do about this man

[chasegirl]

Met this man a few weeks before lockdown. We messaged every day and spoke on phone often and had a few dates/slept together. Lockdown arrived but the messaging and calls continued. We met for a walk a couple of weeks ago all was OK, everything carried on as before.

Spoke to him last night and let him know my dd was at her dad's and I had no plans but he made no suggestions to meet up or anything, just commented on me having some peace and quiet.

Really confused about whether he is interested and should I suggest something? Or has it just become a habit to message/call for company in lockdown and he's really not fussed? He didn't say he'd got anything on this weekend either and still sent a good night text later on.

If it doesnt feel right it's probably not

Suggest something this time, but be wary of getting into a habit of always being the one doing all the work re setting up dates.

If he seems reluctant to meet this time, however, you'll know he's not that bothered.

Maybe he's worried about coronavirus and doesn't (quite rightly) think that a night a your house is worth the risk.

He probably thought it was an invite over

It sounds fairly casual.

I wouldn't do the chasing, in my experience you just end up wasting a lot of time, if he's interested he'll make some effort.

Don’t be the first one to txt or call. Just observe and see how it goes.

Give the guy some notice in case he has plans
Maybe next time let him know your free on a certain day and would he like to catch up

He knows dd goes to her dad's every other weekend so would have already known I would be free.

Think I am feeling too anxious to suggest anything tbh.

Might leave the ball in his court. Maybe he is just being friendly.

I might also reduce the messages, respond less and just let it tail off.

This is so crap. I hate this stuff. He's 50 I am 49 you would think it would be easier by now

I think if anything it gets harder as you get older especially if one or both of you has been single for a while. You get into a routine with your work, kids, friends, hobbies etc. Making time for a new person isn't always easy, you need to know the other person isn't just going through the motions.