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Indirect contact?

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WhenItRains111 · 12/06/2020 23:42

Has anyone elses ex got court ordered indirect contact with dcs and if so are you able to tell me why?

Exp was abusive, threatened to make our dc an orphan by throwing me down the stairs, sexually abusive and emotionally abusive towards me and would do the same to dc. Called them a little shit, Paki, left them unattended in a bath, splashed water in DC face and then told them to shut up and scared dc when they cried, left DC unsupervised on a bed a number of times while he went to watch TV, would leave DC unsupervised in the car without even doing up the car seat, refused to give dc more food even though dc was hungry, he would yell at dc that he'd slap them if they didn't stop crying. The list goes on. I have proof of it all, well as much as I can, texts, time stamped documents, witness, historic police report. Was just wondering if this would be enough to request indirect contact or if you think they'd go down supervised to move to unsupervised.

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WhenItRains111 · 12/06/2020 23:43

Also I know it's hard to say, it's why if anyone has been through the same what the outcome was. Thanks Flowers

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WhenItRains111 · 13/06/2020 09:35

Shamelessly bumping here in the hopes there is someone who has been through this

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Andwoooshtheyweregone · 13/06/2020 10:55

Sorry no advice but bumping for you

Gobbycop · 13/06/2020 12:46

No personal experience of this but I'm a cop and have plenty of experience in court settings.

Sounds horrendous and I'm sorry you went through it.

Based on what you're saying I don't think there'd be any chance of him having direct contact.
Is that what's worrying you?

WhenItRains111 · 13/06/2020 13:04

@Gobbycop, Im very worried yes. Would I be able to pm you privately as I don't want to be identified by any information I give away.

Some of my siblings who are also witnesses are police officers also. One worked in a domestic violence unit. Just trying to strengthen my case as much as possible.

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Gobbycop · 13/06/2020 18:29

Yes of course, but domestic violence isn't my specialism.

If you have family that are in the job they'd probably be the best positioned to give advice.

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