Temper

[CurlyMess]

Hey all

Just wondering how normal this behaviour is from my partner. Me and my partner are both working from home at the moment and my partner gets very stressed out with. He is is overworked and loses his temper a lot, mostly swearing then anything else. But I'm just wondering how normal/common his behaviour is.
I'll give an example, we were play fighting the other day, joking, laughing etc. As part of this I went to push him from his chair however i accidentally got the chair instead of him and the chair toppled over. I apologised straight away however he continued by called me the C word and a effing d**khead.
I was previously in a very absuive relationship and I don't know, I suppose I'm just being weary.

That is verbal abuse.

Temper is a hard 'no' from me and I would bin.

He sounds like a real charmer

Temper is a red flag of an abuser. Name-calling is a sign of contempt. Contempt has no place in a relationship. I echo the calls to bin him.

You’re his emotional punchbag and he thinks it’s ok to treat you like this. It won’t get any better. Odds on if you called him abusive names he’d be livid. That’s normally the clear sign that he thinks you are controlled by him.

Play-fighting is generally a bad idea. It's all fun and games until someone loses an eye, and all that . Cut that out. I think it's often a slippery slope to bringing violence into a relationship - accidentally on purpose hurting each other.

Verbal abuse isn't ok.

Ohhh ... I would really , really getting called the c-word and an effing dickhead .... They are just nasty . The absolute worst thing my long term ex would say would be "you're being a bit of a bitch" and that hurt. My short term ex called me a pisshead once , that was awful ( wasn't even that drunk, horrid word) . Names can be damaging . I am not surprised it's made you pay attention after your previous experience of abuse xx

Awful.
Just awful.

Play fighting is frankly bizarre and seems to be a precursor on here for some really nasty behaviour and words.

Up to you I guess what sort of life you want.

Good luck.

I have never been called a cunt or effing dickhead by DH (or any boyfriend for that matter). I also don't think play fighting is a good idea. You are right to be wary.

That's not good OP
You need to tell him you won't accept that language.
He needs to nip it in the bud now before it escalates. If he's a good man he will try to tone the language down.

My husband has spent the last 18 months calling me a f cunt, a whore, a narcissist and a bitch. He currently lives with his parents. I waited for it to improve. It didnt, and it won't. It is a sign of contempt, and nobody should put up with it.