Can’t stand husbands lockdown beard

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Ill start by telling you that I have never liked beards. I don’t think I’d have married my husband if he’s had a beard. I think it looks so dirty and smelly looking.

Anyway he’s decided he wants to see what it goes like if he just grows it. He says it’s his body and he can grow a beard if he wants. I’ve agreed with him. It’s up to him. However I haven’t kissed him in over a month because I can’t stand the thought of my mouth near it. It really is disgusting me and preventing me from being close to him. As such I feel quite lonely in our marriage now.

I would love him to shave it off but he won’t. He wants to see what it goes like. Any tips to help me get over this disgust I am feeling?

What a bummer. Would gross me out if my partner grew one too.

I guess just continue to keep your distance. Give it a loud 'Ick. Beard. Gross' when he comes in close to you and hopefully he will take the hint.

Sure he can grow a beard if he likes but he should want to keep you happy too. Seems a bit standoffish to grow it knowing you cant stand them.

If the shoe were on the other foot...say if a partner didn't like my pubic hair, I'm not saying I would shave it all off but I would certainly keep it really short.

Compromise you know....

I could deal with stubble on a partner, even though I dont like it. But a proper beard, no.

Did your parents read you The Twits?

My DH's has gone bushy Real Ale. I hate it.

Am saying nothing because we are at the stage of being annoyed at every fucking thing about each other, the DC, the cat, that spider over there that's definitely creeping around like it is to deliberately wind me up, etc.

Don't get me started on people in supermarkets and on my normally perfectly fine colleagues who now all need their P45s.

I'm with you..I hate beards

My DH is the first man I've been with who has a beard...I genuinely don't mind it at all. The grey has been annoying him so he took the plunge and shaved it off...he just looked like a big potato (not that I would have told him that lol), but it was short lived and now the beard is back and even greyer than it was before

I was planning to start a similar post about the same issue. My partner has also grown one, and he now looks scruffy, 10 years older than he is, and very much like my late father!

Didn't middle-age men get the memo that middle-aged women generally don't like beards on middle-aged men as they will remind us of our dads, teachers, and 70s television presenters?

Or it could just be me, as I've only ever found people (well, men) attractive who are not so gender-conforming and have always found overtly masculine men very unappealing (especially if it pertains to atributes that they have altered on purpose, like big gym-grown muscles, beards, etc.).

I am getting over it though, as he has a point when he says he's never had to opportunity to grow a beard before, and, like the OP's, wants to know what it's like. And there are bigger problems to be dealt with currently. And I do enjoy laughing at him when he has to pick out flies from his beard after a bike ride. And pretend that there's food stuck in the beard when there isn't. But I am a bad person, I know.

DP is NHS so has to wear ffp3 and grew a moustache
It was awful!!
I left it alone and he shaved it off last week, I couldn't have been more delighted

DH has grown one and I really love it! I keep it tidy for him though with scissors and comb.

I've decided to remove my lock down beard when DW decides to remove hers.

Husband has trimmed his beard! It is lovely again

must change MN password

Can't help you alas - I love beards.

Can he keep it groomed and use a beard oil to keep it soft?

Sorry no help I love them !

This is a tricky one, OP.

You are using some quite strong language - dirty, smelly, disgusting. You are of course entitled to feel this, but I think if I had always shaved my pubic hair but then made a decision to stop, I would be deeply upset if my husband called my unshaven genitals dirty and disgusting looking. And I think if a guy came on here to express that opinion he would get an absolute pasting.

But I understand what you are saying - I also don't particularly like kissing a beard mouth - I don't like the feel of it. I would be disappointed if my husband knew this and chose to grow a beard anyway - it would feel deeply inconsiderate.

So I don't know what to suggest, other than maybe change your language (which seems quite inflammatory) and maybe talk to him about how the feel of it makes kissing less enjoyable for you.

Don't get me started on this 😂😂😂 half of these comments made my morning especially the one about even the slider in the corner annoying her 😂. My partner has gone from no beard to full on cave man ! He's in to it big time since lockdown and has been ordering so much beard accessories off amazon . He ha more stuff than me now . The other night it turned me a bit kissing him but what really gets me close to throwing up is when he's sitting there and he's got the long lip over growers in his mouth and I could hear him sucking them 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢 I could of punched his head in 😂 x

I really love beards and hate it when my husband shaves his off. I am very much of the opinion that it is his face though and I wouldn't like him telling me what to do with my hair for example. Of course that doesn't mean I can control my level of attraction going down when he is clean shaven. But at the end of the day i love him and still find him sexy, so i got over it

I guess just continue to keep your distance. Give it a loud 'Ick. Beard. Gross' when he comes in close to you and hopefully he will take the hint.

If that behaviour actually worked then Mumsnet would reduce its thread count by 50%

I'm 47
Beards to me are Kenny Everett and Gerry Adams. Not sexy.

I've found my people - my DH has also grown his beard during lockdown. He normally has a short beard, nice and tidy, and I have no problem with that. But this multicoloured curly monstrosity is another thing entirely.
Of course, I will never tell him to shave it off, it's his body and his choice. But oh how i wish he would!

@Ohhgreat

I've found my people - my DH has also grown his beard during lockdown. He normally has a short beard, nice and tidy, and I have no problem with that. But this multicoloured curly monstrosity is another thing entirely. Of course, I will never tell him to shave it off, it's his body and his choice. But oh how i wish he would!

Turns out my DH had the piss taken by his mates (now they can social distance meet for beers in a garden). That's why he went back to the neatly trimmed version.

Another mate has ditched his torn joggers and yet another signed the bloody divorce papers after they spent an afternoon together.

The wives or soon to be ex wives are mates too so our group chats and meet ups have shared the hallelujahs. I have changed some details as this is so so outing.

I recommend encourage your DH to meet up with his most piss taking mates.

Please don't take the advice of Bunnymumy. You're right, your husband has every right to do what he likes with his body and you have every right to pull back your affection if you don't like it, but don't go out of your way for making him feel bad about his body, about something that grows naturally. That's unkind.

Worse is lockdown stubble, the Brillo pad type.
And ds has what looks like a small hairy rodent hanging from his chin

Unfortunately DH has close mates who struggle to grow proper beards, so at no point will they tell him to shave his off!

I hate beards too. My husband had a beard just before we got married. I insisted he shaved it off for our wedding because I hated it. I'd not kissed him for weeks up to that point because I just hated it. The turning point was when he got some Porridge stuck in it after his breakfast. Gross. It was that point I insisted it went.