is 35 too old to have a wedding

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Hi all, just after a bit of advise/feedback.
I’m now 34 and will be turning 35 next year. For as long as I can remember it has always been a big hope of mine to find the right man and get married/start a family. All through my 20s I tried and never met the right guy for me or my mindset was not in the right place. As I began to give up on this hope I finally met a great guy and we are hoping to get married next year (I would have just turned 35). Whilst I am grateful for finding him, I’m also feeling anxious that this is too late, I may be too old to have children and also feel silly having a big Indian wedding at my age. Especially as I’ve lost touch with so many friends as you naturally do when you get older so it would be a lot different to all the weddings of friends I attended in my 20s
I’m also considering convincing my partner to get married earlier in November instead as then I’ll be 34 and somehow that feels younger lol than being a 35 year old bride.

I got married at 34 and had DC1 2 months after my 35th birthday.

I didn’t feel too old.

DC2 came along just before I was 38. I feel too old now! But that’s mainly because I’m tired. So very tired of being at home with a toddler and pre-schooler.

Short answer, no you’re not.

OMG, no! How is this even a question! Of course you can have your wedding and enjoy it! go on Pinterest or look at the romantic sildeshow ideas to get inspired and plan your wedding in the best way possible!

Stop worrying what other people think.

Have a great day!

I've heard it all now! The only thing which may make me less surprised by your view is if you are from a non british background where the tradition is women marrying early and over 30 is a 'spinster' (totally ridiculous!).

My mother in law had two weddings at 82. Well one was a blessing, but she walked down two aisles.
My sister in law had full cathedral wedding at 54. She’d only had a small registry office one for her first marriage when she was 20. She looked beautiful, lovely traditional dress, four bridesmaids, a couple of Tuk as transport. It was a really nice day and age didn’t matter.

I reread your op and notices the indian wedding reference. If you know this will be gossipes about in indian families then either not care or make it small. Posters from other cultures like english MAY not recognise why this is a concern for you, because unfortunately that attitude is very real.

Wedding at 49. The one i wanted, not the one my conservative Irish Christian parents wanted or expected. Because I was old enough to be brave enough to do what I wanted .

Loved it!! Leopard print dress, punk band, and no extended family that I wasn't close to. And do you know what? - on the day (after much shock and tutting from extended family) my parents were just happy that i was happy.

(Although my dad is definitely not a convert to punk lol)

Celebrate your love and commitment, not other's expectations. Be happy!

Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply, I feel a lot more positive. I guess things/timing did not turn out the way I dreamed of but I should be grateful and make/enjoy the best of what I have.

My main worry was being able to have children and not being an oldish mum in the playground but like many of you have said it’s still possible to have children over 35. And your all absolutely right I should stop worrying what others think.

Yes I’m of a South Indian background where all the ladies I grew up with married in their 20s and have children. All my younger cousins are married aswell so I felt massively left behind which is probably where my question stems from

See if you were in a white middle claas playground/area you would be the norm to marry and have a baby at this stage.

Ask yourself honestly whether YOU want a big wedding or not id there were no negative comments? Friends can lose touch but still come to a wedding. Make a list od who would come to get an idea. You only need 2 or 3 mates from yourside and the rest family and his mates.

I got married at 46. Less than 50 at the wedding!

Weddings are about celebrating something wonderful of course you aren’t too old to have one! Enjoy it and plan yourselves a fantastic day

I had my son at almost 40, and he's been at two different schools. At the first, I was definitely an older mother compared to those of his classmates. At the school he's at now, which because of its location has a larger percentage of professional/artist/musician parents, I'm bang on average to be 47 with an eight year old.