My partner has not told his family I'm pregnant.

[jacampbell]

Hello, I'm 5 months pregnant and my partner has not told his family that I am pregnant. Not even his parents. He has only told his older brother and that's it.
What do you think of this? I feel like I'm going crazy for being upset about it all the time.

His excuse is that he does not want to get chucked out the house (although he is 24). I really don't understand this as I am getting my own place anyway... but it clearly seems as if he doesn't want to live with me...
I'm very confused right now.

Simple - he is not ready to be a father yet. If he tells his folks then it all becomes 'real', at the moment it's still something he can ignore.

Either give him a good shake and get him to wake up and start preparing for the arrival or start planning on doing it all without him.

He is not commited to you or your baby. A grown man should not be afraid of mummy and daddy. It's pathetic. Prepare now to go this alone.

He's not ready to grow up

He's not ready to be a father

This is not looking good

He's a man child, prepare yourself to be a single mum

Sorry OP I'm afraid I agree. He's not ready to commit to you or your child and is currently burying his head in the sand.

I think you need to prepare to go forward without him and set up reliable support for yourself and your baby elsewhere.

As PPs said, prepare practical and mentally for doing this alone.

Give the baby your surname.

And make sure he pays child maintenance.

OP how long have you be together? Having a baby doesn’t mean you have to be in a relationship, is he likely to be a help or a hindrance if you live together?

So if he were to get chucked out today, where would he live?

When the Cms letters drop through his door he may have to....
I hope you have accepted you will be a single dm..

This is not a good sign and it sounds as if he is going to be more trouble than he is worth☹️
Think very carefully, do what's best for YOU over the long term

Why would you being pregnant mean he is kicked out?

What's his plan for this long term? Never tell them you're pregnant? Never tell them you've had the baby?

Doesn't sound like much of a partnership to me. I'd be planning to go it alone and build up a support network around you rather than rely on him to step up

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Thanks for the responses everyone. Sorry I can't reply individually. I'm just overwhelmed but I'm appreciative of the feedback.

Definitely give the baby your name. What are his folks like? If he's going to flake out maybe think hard whether you want them involved in baby's life, especially if their reaction to their grown up son fathering a child is to kick him out ) and if that does happen make sure he doesn't try to move in with you ( one baby is enough, you don't need a man child too).

He is very immature. His parents will have to know sooner or later and why would they kick their son out of the house? They would surely be more likely to discuss the situation thoroughly with him and you and offer support.

It does sound as though he isn't ready to live with you. You haven't said whether you were planning to live together before you became pregnant, if not it's not surprising he doesn't want to move in with you. He is not yet ready for that.

It would be easy to say he should have put something on the end of it but what's done is done.

I'm glad you are getting your own place and hope boyfriend shapes up and gives you and the baby a lot of support.

I could be wrong but are you younger than he is? Do you have your own place? Why doesn’t he want to live with you?

Either way. It’s not good. You need to look into whatever programs and help you can access as a single parent.

It’s overwhelming but you almost have to be thankful. A lot of women I personally know had their men put on a better show when these men felt the exact same way. It wasted more of their time and tears. This way, you know where you stand.

I am not trying to pry, but this situation sounds a lot more complicated than what is written.

Do you know his parents? Why exactly would his parents be upset? Religion or what?

Even with zero details it’s important for him to realize that like it or not, the baby is coming and his parents WILL find out. So he needs to gather allllllllll his crap, and get it together. This isn’t a secret will ever be able to keep.

He needs a game plan. He has to adult now.

And you need to make your own independent one.

Sorry, I missed the bit about you getting your own place.