In a relationship but really missing my 'alone' time.

[Petals23]

So I'm in a relationship a few years now but we don't live together. Before that I lived alone for 20 years so I've always been happy in my own company. I'm an introvert and need time on my own to recharge. My boyfriend also likes his time alone but doesn't need quite as much as I do. I find when we spend 2 or 3 days together I start craving some space and can feel myself getting exhausted, even though we're having a good time together. Anyone else like this and how do you manage it?

I’m like this. You just have to suck it up I’m afraid. It’s harder when you move in together etc.

Disagree. Explain to them kindly, it's nothing personal. I shut myself in a room and read or go for walk or Mumsnet etc. Also we don't live together in traditional sense. I also have my own bedroom at his so I can watch TV or chill on my own.

At my age, I deserve a relationship that works for me as well as him. I need space. We don't have kids together and no blended families. Why shouldn't I get the space I need? Never been problem 😁

The last relationship I had I decided if I ever move in with someone there will have to be a tv room or games room or snug or something so one of us can be in one room reading or watching tv and the other can be in another room gaming or on the phone or Skype etc.

I think you get to a stage that you do need your own space. And quiet time.

It’s not a reflection on the other person it’s just you being content on your own sometimes because you get used to it. And then it’s nice to be together again.

I’m totally the same OP. I’m going to sound really weird but I can’t Stand sleeping in the same bed as anyone else. I love sex and cuddles but I must sleep alone. I’m a very restless sleeper and thrash about all night so DH is fine with it. We have a large house with several spare rooms so I have a room with my own bathroom at the other end of the house. I need to read a book on my own before bed, turn the light of when it suits me and wake up in the morning in peace and quiet and in my own time. I have tea making facilities in my room so make a cup of tea, go back to bed and just snooze or read the news. It’s vital to my MH. As long as I have that space I’m absolutely fine spending the day with DH! I realise I’m lucky to have the space and an agreeable DH.

Oh I get you OP! I'm the same. I don't live with my DP and we keep different clocks and I love it when he goes to bed so I can spend an hour or so on my own, I need it to decompress.

I’m the same as you OP and I live with my DP. I used to get so frustrated because I never voiced my need to have alone time - but I really need it! If I don’t get that time for myself, I end up feeling like I have nothing to give to someone else - sounds strange but it’s like I need it to recharge. I ended up explaining to him one day how I felt. Told him that it was nothing personal, I just needed some time for me. He understands now and doesn’t get offended when I try to get away from him