He’s really confusing me?

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I told my (now) ex that I thought we wanted different things due to him acting differently to what he said he wanted out of a relationship - he said I spoke bullshit - sorry for language!

He hasn’t spoke to me since even though I’ve tried texting, calling and even leaving a voicemail. I had enough & deleted him from Facebook, then he realised I had - and he decided after weeks that he would read my messages - his read receipts said he had only read messages from weeks ago YESTERDAY!

To retaliate - he blocked me. So I sent him a text saying that what I did wasn’t out of spite, it was to move on as he clearly wasn’t going to reply

He then unblocked me...

But still hasn’t messaged.

I’m getting such mixed messages?

OP, my best advice is just move on. He may not even know what he wants or why he is acting the way that he is.

If this is how he behaves normally, you do not need him in your life! xx

You're not. You're giving him mixed messages.

You dumped him, then kept on texting him.

Leave him be.

Because he's a dick.

Block and proceed with divorce proceedings.

Why were you messaging and calling him repeatedly after you finished with him?!?

@TheFlis12345 I hadn’t broken up with him at that point. He just gave me the silent treatment and that’s when we became ex’s as I had had enough .. x

I assume that as you wanted different things, you don't want him?
he probably actually agrees even though he may not message you that.
So if you don't and he doesn't care then just move on.

The messages both ways sound exhaustingly hard work. It's over with him, chalk it up to experience and move on.

Block him on anything he isnt blocked on yet and move the heck on. All you're doing is tormenting yourself over irrelevant nonsense. You dumped him, its over.

Don't get sucked into game playing, as that's what this is. You're watching each other to see if you're blocked and then retaliating with attention seeking messages. It's a vicious cycle.

You can't make someone want you. And if he wanted you he wouldn't be headfucking (and neither would you). You've said you want to move on, move on. He can't give you what you want and it really is for the best.

I've been there OP, it's hard. But he's keeping you dangling by you 'hoping' he'll get in touch, even subconsciously. A clean break is the only way. Block him on everything and forget him.

He's playing games. He's checking he still has some power over you.

Block, ignore and move on.

I'm confused by why you have multiple threads on this? All posters say stop obsessing and move on.

Not one has said that he's playing games because he's madly in love with you, but can't cope with his feelings - which I presume is what you want to hear?

You obviously dumped him in an attempt to get him to 'fight' for you. That was immature and game playing. And it didn't work.

You've now said to him you are contacting/blocking him because you want to move on - why on earth are you expecting a reply to that? It's not logical.

He is NOT going to sudden realise what he's lost and come running back proclaiming you are the love of his life! So stop these frantic and desperate attempts to get him to.

Analysing his silence, when he reads your texts, his blocking/unlocking is frankly bizarre. He ghosted you, you dumped him as a game playing test. He's failed the test. You refuse to accept he's not interested. (He probably read your messages to confirm that your behaviour is unhinged and he's best out of it.)

Stop. Just stop. This is very unhealthy. If it was the other way round and him posting that his exgf dumped him and then constantly emailed/texted etc we'd be telling him to run - it's unhinged stalker behaviour!

OP you really need to let this go, you are making an absolute fool of yourself. You dumped him, he doesn't want to be with you anymore, you're bordering on stalking him now, just leave him alone.

He's not into you and that hurts but it's time to move on.

WALK AWAY. You're not doing yourself any favours here, block, leave blocked, no form of contact at all, dust yourself off and move on with your life.

I've said this before, but it bears repeating.

You honestly need to get some help. Either counselling or medication. Can you make an appointment with your doctor or look for some online counselling - tell them that you have become obsessive in your behaviour and it's giving cause for concern.

Because you really have lost all sense of proportion and it is over the line from 'heartbroken' and into 'obsessive and stalkerish' now.

Why do you keep starting threads about this?

OP is a frequent, name changing poster, disappears for a few weeks then come back with the same kind of drivel

Is the boyfriend the 40 year old who lives with his mother?

OP, you need to stop creating threads about this. You seriously sound obsessive and this is not healthy for you.

Please stop starting new threads. What do you want anyone to say? You are obsessed with this man and talking about him. You need to get some help