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[iamtheoneandonlyyy]

Sorry for photo I am rushing off my feet. Any advice from anyone please?

I think no matter how you try it's still going to be difficult, for them and yourself. I have no real experience, just hugs and stay strong . Hopefully some ladies who have gone through this can give you sone suggestions.

Are you going to be safe moving back there? What's to stop him being there when you arrive?

I will be safe.
I'm more focusing on the kids now and whet this means for them. I'm not being blunt I've just been in this pit of despair so long I just want to make a plan in my head to support them. I just don't know how to especially the eldest. He's 5

At their ages, you don't need to go into depth. "Mummy and daddy don't live together any more but we're going to have a lovely happy home, and Daddy will see you [whenever]" or something like that. If you treat it matter of factly and seem positive, they'll likely follow your lead.

Thankyou. I'm very apprehensive about the whole thing.

Mine were 5&3 when I told them. We just said that mum and dad were going to have different houses and they could go back and forth between them (they do this happily). They didn't need to now the ins and outs about it all. We co-parent quite well at the moment but it's hard work to maintain that. x

Thanks for the advice. They were sitting on me yesterday just relaxing so I told them then. So far they are ok

I was in a similar situation, except I moved out so they had a new house with me and their old house with him.

Mine were 1 & 3 and I just said whenever the 3yo asked "some mummys and daddys have their own houses - but you and your brother have 2 because they are both your homes!"

Made it seem normal and like a good thing, because it was a good thing, it saved them from being raised in a toxic home environment.