Partner attending BLM protests with friends am I being over the top

[Auty123]

I'm not usually massive on rules but I've drawn the line with my partner (who is black) attending BLM protests today. We are still in the middle of a Coronavirus pandemic and he wants to stand with thousands of people outside the embassy chanting and has also arranged to meet with his friends. I wouldn't give a crap if it was any other time in fact I would go myself. My daughter is starting school tommorow as I'm going back to work (I been told that I have to) and last thing I need is her getting ill (she gets respiratory issues fairly easily and always has done since she was born premature) so I would have to keep her off school even longer. I am all for the movement but he's accused me of not caring ect. It's not that I just don't want him in the middle of thousands of people shouting spitting ect then coming back home so I told him to hand me my keys and to pack a bag with him and he will have to find somewhere to isolate for 14 days
Am I being over the top??

YANBU - For all the reasons you explain, you are trying to protect your family which is the right thing to do.

No you are not being over the top. The virus couldn't give a shit about anyone's cause, it will kill indiscriminately and for people to attend a protest without isolating afterwards when people are still dying every day is fucking murderous behaviour. By all means people might believe in this protest to the point they are willing to die for it and that is absolutely their right but to willfully mix during a world wide pandemic... That's as good as saying nobodies life there present actually matters, nor those of the families, Co workers, patients they will come into contact with. Do we care about life or do we not? I care about BLM. Will I attend a protest during a killer virus outbreak? Only if I'm willing to a/ die and b/ kill. Not willing to do either of those.

Is your dh the dad of your dd? He doesnt sound very caring.

You're not being unreasonable IMO.

I'm 4 months pregnant, me and my partner found out about the pregnancy 5 days before lockdown, and even before lockdown happened we were being incredibly careful. Now, I don't have any underlying illnesses that would make me more vulnerable. But even so, my partner has been so incredibly careful when he goes out and doesn't agree to letting me go to busy places like supermarkets, etc. He only ever leaves the house if it is absolutely necessary and when he does, he gets changed when he comes home and washes his hands and face. Some might say he is a little over-protective but I had an awful pregnancy about 10 years ago, stillbirth at 37 weeks due to placenta failure, so we are not taking any chances.

I don't think it is unreasonable for you to ask the same of your partner if your DD has underlying problems which will make her more vulnerable if she contracts Covid-19. Your partner could bring anything home.

Now, I completed understand the need to go out and feel a part of something that he will hold very close to his heart. But he also has responsibilities which should come first.

@beforeiputonmymakeup how privileged are you telling the op what she does or does know about race? When she is a POC. Are you white? It ain't your place either way to tell someone. She is putting her family first in a god damn virus pandemic. Her daughter is clearly a vulnerable person. You go tell that to all NHS frontline staff that virus is nothing. And before you start, I'm massively behind BLM. I am also behind not invoking a second wave of a deadly virus because of said vulnerable people who deserve to be alive as well as BLM. You can protest and socially distance. Those people were not socially distancing. They managed it in York so no excuse in LONDON or wherever else.

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