Am I being petty?

[Londongirl888]

BIL birthday sent e- voucher and e-card
dSis says aaah no thanks from her or him or personal acknowledgement from him. He has always put his family on a pedestal who are distanced and our local family on the back burner but I think this is rude as he is nearer 60 than 6!! Just find it hurtful and irritating should I bother in future? Or get over it ?

Yes get over it. He's rude and won't change now.

He'd get bugger all else in future though.

Ignore and bear in mind for the future. Don’t let it get you down right now

Don't bother.

Thanks Gamerchick. I am always sucking it up. Always out of pocket it is just grating at the moment. Want to say something to my sister tho

Yes maybe bugger all is best 

I'll speak from his point of view. Seven years ago I failed to send a thank you note to an Aunt. I had been 100% perfect from childhood to that point, around age 50. But that year, I just didn't send one. I am guilty as charged. I have no excuse.

What happened? That entire branch of the family cut me off. Stopped speaking to me or inviting me to things.

You know - Whatever.

So, do whatever you think you need to do in response to the lack of a Thank You. He'll survive. I have. It's certainly less stressful to not have to worry about it anymore. If people are that hard core about receiving a Thank You, then don't send any gift. It's like a trap.

Thanks dame Lucy never go around empty handed. If I take wine or flowers it's "just put it over there never thank you 🙄

Absolute pleasure do you mean not bother in future? Or just forget - 🙄

Thanks Old Woman. I am always generous and yes u are right he will get over it I feel it was the other way around I would never hear the end of it from DSis they are very comfortable. I will let it go and be minimal in future.