Unrequited love

[Highcocoa]

I am in love with a man that I will never be with and my god it's shit!! He is married and i know he will never choose me. I suppose you could say we have a friendship, we met at work, but despite a mutual attraction to each other he is not a bad person and I know he won't cross the line. And I don't want some sordid affair, I want him all to myself.

I'm really struggling with my feelings, I think about him multiple times a day and because we work in the same office I will never be able to escape him.

I wonder how I will get over this?! What if I never do!! It's hard to meet men and OLD is awful. Has anyone been in this situation and been able to get past it? How do I actually stop loving and wanting him?

For fucks sake. Imagine you were married. Imagine you loved someone SO much you would stand up in front of everyone you knew and vowed to love him forever. Now imagine how you would feel if you were this man's wife. A woman who has done nothing to you. You can't have him... and it sounds like as per usual he's not worth having anyway!

Wise, wise words, Zaphod. It's not really love until you really truly know a person with all their faults, failings and vulnerabilities and still love them, and they know all yours and still love you.

We need to know more about this conversation between the two of you where he told you...

I was too close to a married man.

I changed jobs.

It’s what you do when you decide you’re not going to be the person who has an affair. That’s not who I am and I acted accordingly. I hope you shut him down completely when he expressed his feelings. You don’t need to help him humiliate and hurt his wife.

Sorry but, tough shit. You change jobs.

No one saying its immoral to fancy a married man. But it is immoral to stay around him knowing there is mutual attraction.

Especially considering he appears to be waiting for you to slip up so he can blame you for it.

Tell him to stay away from you as expressing this atteaction to you as a married man us extremely inappropriate. Or, find a new job. Those are your choices.