Am I being unreasonable to think this a little odd?

[ScruffyTeddy]

I went out with a friend of a friend. We had been texting for a couple of weeks. It wasn't a planned date, I was at a loose end, he was too so we met up, had a couple of drinks. It went ok I thought.

He hasn't stopped texting and calling me since. Leaves me voicemails saying how much he likes me. I thought that in your thirties that really wasn't the done thing. Not for me anyway. He must call me 20 times a day. It seems a tad juvenile.

He's put me right off. My friend says he's a good man, was her ex husbands best friend so she has known him for a very long time. I'm sure he's lovely but maybe not for me. Is this normal? I've been off the dating scene for a while and feel quite content to lock myself back in my cupboard!

twenty times a day?
Avoid like the plague

he sounds a tad obsessive...i agree with zookeeper,avoid like the plague!!!! tell him you are thinking of joining a nunnery or something....

Once every couple of days would seem reasonable to me (possibly less after one date!). My last relationship came to a grinding halt for this very same reason so I did start to wonder maybe if it was me!

Thats a big shame - he's gone completely overboard and its totally abnormal and unbalanced.

I had this once and the guy left a running commentary which ended with "ok well that's fine I get the message" as if my not calling back during the same day when he left 6 mssgs meant I wasn't interested. (I wasn't by that stage so he was right, self-fullfilling prophecy and all that)

A lot of people seem to text instead of having a relationship. They think it is the relationship. It is juvenile and I think it spoils things, takes all the romance out of the beginning of things. People should just leave well alone. I am not dating at the moment but in the past I have told them I don't have a mobile phone in order to avoid the whole 24-hour text harrassment thing. Life is so much more fun incommunicado.

If he had texted or called a few times, that would be nice - you would know he was interested and feel flattered. But 20 times a day???? I would feel totally claustrophobic with that. I don't think it bodes well for a relationship.

It smacks of desperation, which is always offputting.

I don't know why that is, thinking about it.

If someone is desperate for you, surely that should be flattering? It's not, it makes you go

AAARRRRRGGGGHHHHHHHHHH

I really really want you
piss off

I'm not bothered either way
come to me, stud muffin

People are weird.

Lol mtpw. So true!
So I sent him a text saying that I was flattered and although i'm sure he's a great guy, it's a little over the top for me and perhaps we shouldn't have a second date.

His reply? "Well can I still text you and see you again?"

Some people just dont get the hint do they?

Desperation is not good! I would run in the opposite direction if someone did that to me.

Sounds like he is not going to get the hint, i would just not answer him.