You decide everything anyway.

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So stbx husband says whenever there is any upset with children . My son has been upset about us splitting and I am finding it really hard. Ex has been putting pressure on me to “ talk” which is usually his way of trying to put a fire underneath me when I am getting on with my life.
I feel like this shedding of any responsibility for the childrens’ pain etc is just one other way to emotionally torture me . It’s so cruel when I am literally breaking my back Each day for them and he is utterly ineffectual when it suits him. Has anyone else experienced similar?

For sure, first husband, he's still causing trouble 36 years later.

It’s killing me psychologically because I can’t see a way out. My Life is hard - I’ve had to
Power through the last two years of separation and make hard decisions for my children. My stbx has offered very little expect emotional manipulation and entitlement. I feel
Like it’s all my shoulders and I can’t cope psychologically anymore .

Except not expect