DH and colleague's message?

[PissedOffPartner]

I have gone to use DH's phone on WhatsApp and saw there was a woman who's number was not saved in his phone who he'd sent a photo to so I opened it. When I did it was a photo of her which said "thanks" and he'd responded with something work related. I'm thinking there's more to it.

They've only been working together from this week as far as I'm aware (although worked in the same place and knew each other before) but the photo of her with just a thanks after makes me think he deleted the prior conversation because it didn't show one or both of them in the best light. That makes me even more curious because if you're ashamed of it/concerned what your partner would think then it shouldn't be happening.

I don't know how to approach this as he's prone to lie about unnecessary things anyway to please everyone.

Some advice please?

OP - just the fact that you have access to his phone says that he isn’t hiding much.
But as you seem to be suspicious - just keep checking and maybe you’ll either feel better or find somthing.

Do you really want to be with someone that makes you feel insecure?

'OP - just the fact that you have access to his phone says that he isn’t hiding much'

Hmm I'm not sure. My DH used snapchat and installed/ uninstalled it as and when.. I was so ignorant to the fact he was so deviously deceitful. I used to pick his phone up whenever.. 😞

If you delete his WhatsApp App then download again, the deleted messages can be retrieved. Google it but there are lots of ways of seeing deleted messages on there including cloning on a separate phone. There was a thread on here recently and loads of posters gave suggestions about how to see things.

She needed a photo for something, he offered to take it, then he sent it to her and she said thanks? Could that not just be it? I don't think this would even register with me as something suspicious.

@SandyY2K
I think this is the lady with the partner with kids already who cheated 3 months into their relationship and we all think he saw her as a babysitter.
She also had a baby not long ago, I think her partner was messaging on Facebook to the same colleague...

@PissedOffPartner
I think you need to monitor his WhatsApp and not say anything for now.
You spoke to him about his Messenger to her and he denied it and played it down.

I dont know anyone (unless they have something to hide) who deletes WhatsApp messages....

Also him being late home is a concern along with the WhatsApp messages, I'd be keeping a mental note about this and piecing it all together as you go.

Good Luck.
Please look after you and your baby.

@SortingItOut

That poster is still updating her thread, so I don't think it's her.

In fact she has said the whole text message thread is deleted, causing further suspicion.. so I doubt it's her.

@SandyY2K
Oh ok, I was watching her thread but hadnt seen an update for ages. I'll go and look.

Seems alot of men are up to no good

@SortingItOut

I think she namechanged with recent updates, so not easily identifiable.