Mother and Son relationships - less anger why?

[TellMeWhyRI]

Of course this is mumsnet, so mostly women post here.

Often painful dynamics between DMs and DDs. That cast a massive shadow over the daughter's life. I've had it myself, so I understand and empathise.

But what about sons and mothers, and their painful dynamics?

They must exist, at least to some extent. What do men "do" with this?

I have a couple of my own theory/theories, but wonder what others think about this.

In all honesty, I think with mother daughter relationships, the mother projects a lot as she sees a lot of herself in her daughter. It comes across as if she is try6to correct mistakes she has made for things her daughter is yet to make if that makes sense.

Awful lot of generalisation in this thread. What I would agree with is that parents often project their ideals of themselves onto their children, which seems more pronounced when the kid is the same sex.

I've always had a fantastic relationship with my mum. She brought me up on her own and I wouldn't have had it any other way considering how much of a loser my so called "father" is. I'm sick of how mother/daughter relationships are looked down upon and how people always have something negative to say about them especially online. If teenage boys are so nice then how come they're viewing hardcore pornography, engaging in sexual harassment and online trolling? If teenage girls are so "spiteful" I don't see how that's supposedly worse than the things teen boys get up to. Men are more laid paid and tend to see the good in people? I've heard it all now. If you dislike young girls and women so much, you absolutely shouldn't be teaching them because you clearly engage in favouritism.

Laid back I meant*

@dandymandy I wish I hadn’t bothered replying if I’m honest. It was a massive generalisation of things observed over many years. Of course, not all teenage boys are lovely and all girls spiteful. I have a great relationship with my mum and am not bashing anyone. Lots of men I know are more laid back and let a lot more slide as it’s not in their interest to see the truth. I’m sorry I seemed to have offended you and stirred up such strong feelings.

Dont' want to get involved in bun-fights here ...

Anyway ... a couple of thoughts I had.

1. That men can to some extent "heal" problemmatic relationships they had with their mother with the new "woman" in their lives. Women can't really do that, however nice their husband/boyfriend is?

1. A man will have a separate "male" identity, not to do with his mother so there is less competition, comparison etc.

In an enlightened and wonderful mother/daughter relationship, much better things can happen of course - but I'm talking about the more damaged parent-child relationships. Men don't seem to suffer so much? Or are more able to take steps to "heal" this pain with a new woman in their lives?