Feeling down on my birthday

[Rosebel]

40th birthday today. Had a party planned for tonight which has obviously been cancelled but been a bit of a shit day. Parents came over to drop off presents, stayed for about an hour socially distancing in the garden.
They left and my husband went upstairs to play on his xbox (for an hour about 4 hours ago) and my children disappeared to their rooms.
Can't help but think it might be nice if they wanted to spend a bit of time with me. I thought my husband at least would have done.
Probably being a bit miserable but it's a rubbish day and I'm hormonal as I'm 36 weeks pregnant.
Just wanted a moan really. Wish I hadn't made an effort for my husbands birthday now. He didn't even get me anything (not expecting loads but even a card or box of chocolates would have been nice).

Your DH didn't get you a card ? Did you ask him why ?

I'm not always big on birthdays but that's pretty damn shit on behalf of your husband, especially on a big round number. I think I would have it out with him. Is he usually so uncaring?

Get yourself a box of wine and a huge take away from Uber eats, and don't let them have any.

Could he be saving a present for when the birthday party is back on? Maybe he was planning to give it then?

Maybe they have it in their minds that the birthday party day is the real birthday day and it's hold for now.

Still, it's a bit cold to leave you with nothing on the actual day. I would approach your husband about it, but don't get too bitchy or wild, just say he's hurt your feelings especially considering you made an effort on his birthday.

I'm sorry, OP. I've had many shit birthdays in the past. I think people seem to care less the older you get too? And then when you're very old, like over 70 people start making a big deal of it again?

Happy Birthday.

*on hold

Definitely do not get a box of wine!!!

He has no excuse to not make today special. Is he usually so mean spirited? No card or significant gift for your 40th is especially shitty, everything is available online.

Sending love OP. It's my birthday today too and I'm also 36 weeks pregnant, weirdly enough! I've not been bothered about celebrating today, just feels like any other day especially as my toddler clearly has no idea it's my birthday and has been whinging and stropping like any other day. Can't go anywhere, can't do anything... it's rubbish isn't it!

Happy birthday lovely 🎂
Sorry they are all being rubbish.
If it was me I would just look after myself, order a nice takeaway, have a nice bath, watch what I wanted. Do my own cake even 😂
Bet you do lots for their respective birthdays too!! X

Happy Birthday @Rosebel and @MooChops89 🎂

Make a vow to make next years so much better.

Happy 40 birthday

Happy birthday

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! @Rosebel and @MooChops89 🌹🌷🌻🍰🍫. Hope you both have a good day tomorrow. 🤗😃

Ah happy birthday man

Your husband is a shit and deserves a good telling off

Thanks for your replies. I wasn't sure if I was being unreasonable by expecting more as obviously it's not a normal time. Told him I was a bit upset but he just said he'd make it up to me next year.
Tbh never have or expect a fuss on my birthday but obviously this is sort of a big one different times though I suppose.

That's really sad op.

What a tosser he is. Tell him he could have least made a fuss of you and made dinner or got off the xbox. Is he usually such a self centred prick? My birthday was on 18th. Not a special birthday but I got flowers, a card, a chinese bought, wine and £100 to spend on makeup with the proviso we were also going out to dinner once lockdown over! And that was just from my partner of 14 years! Please tell your hubby to step up xx

Makeup online delivery*

Happy birthday, OP - does it help to think that on your next birthday, you will have another child in your family? You have my sympathy and 🍰🌻🌹

YANBU at all...it's just so thoughtless :(

Did you even get a birthday cake?! Or anything from the children?

Happy Birthday

Make sure when this is all over and when the baby is here that you tell your H that you're having a spa day, he's paying for it and looking after the kids for the day.

That's awful, I'm not big on birthdays and we've had a few quiet ones the past few years as we've been saving but my other half always brings me breakie in bed with a nice coffee in the morning and would then make me a nice home cooked meal whilst I watched what I wanted on the TV in the evening. The year we were saving for our first house he bought me a card and a really pretty keyring to put my keys on when we finally completed a few months later. It's still one of my favourite presents. Its not about the money spent or the big gestures especially as we cant do those things so much right now, but he could have done something.

My mum made me a birthday cake and tbf the girls did make me cards e at least they remembered.
A spa day? That really would be a dream come true. Perhaps I should suggest it to him.

Happy birthday OP . Your DH has neglected you on your birthday, so no wonder you feel down. Challenge him OP for this lazy and cold behaviour. You deserve better treatment! He needs to behave better. Remember this for HIS birthday next year.

That's grim.
The gaming thing with a grown man is yuck to me anyway but to bugger off for 4 hours on your birthday is rubbish.

Agh! Lay it on thick and say you feel really disappointed and let down. Four hours in his room on the bloody xbox... On your birthday!! I'd throw it out the window! I'm sorry. Happy birthday 🎂💐