Divorce - Husband says he wont respond

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Hi

Im wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation. Husband wont sign the petition,, I have proof that he has received them, because he has sent me messages. What are the chances that the divorce can go ahead without him responding?

Sorry if this sounds like a silly question - my solicitors havent got back to me, they have a backlog.

Also would the court serve the papers to him again even though we have proof he did recieve them?

thanks

Apply to the court for deemed service.
Complete application form I think it's called d11 and where it asks you why your making application put it all in there and send copies of the messages.

Yes the government have an online chat service they can talk you through what to do. It costs £50 if he won't respond. Don't let his silly little games get to you

What the above two said. He can play his silly games all he likes but the court system will make him comply whether he likes it or not. Mine tried this. He got handed a big slice of fuck you

Be glad you're getting rid of the controlling arsehole soon :)

Is he able to give a reason for not signing it?

My husband had this shit with his ex wife. She just wanted to make life awkward/extra stressful for him because she could. She's very petty minded, she loves tit for tat.

Anyway, he asked her for a straight-up reason why she wouldn't sign. She wouldn't answer the question. So he just kept saying 'I don't care about all this other bullshit you're trying to manipulate, just answer the question'. Once she saw he wasn't taking any shit and was made to look like a moron who couldn't answer a basic question, she gave up and signed.

From the Gov UK website: (As the respondent)

You need to post back the acknowledgment of service form. You must respond within 8 days of getting the notice of proceedings.

If you do not respond in time
Your husband or wife might still be able to continue with the divorce if the court decides that you received the application.

The court might deliver the papers personally to you so that there’s proof you’ve received them. You might have to pay the cost of this.

So yes, you will be able to carry on with the divorce - if you have proof of service already, that would help, but if not, you can get the court to serve papers again. He's not able to stop you by simply failing to respond, all he can do is drag it out.

You could message him "thank you for acknowledging receipt" .

He got handed a big slice of fuck you

Is there a recipe for fuck you pie that I can make?

My Ex tried this tactic. I wanted to press on with the divorce but, my Solicitor said that we should give them a little more time to respond, be the bigger person etc.

How I wish I had ignored her advice, and stuck rigidly to the time limits, as this gave him time to cross petition, making the whole divorce more lengthy and expensive.

This was some years ago, so cross petitioning may have been abolished now. But still, he is trying to play control games with you, so use the available procedures to stay in control yourself.

@Muppetry76 lol depends on the recipient. Just not taking their shit any more tends to do it..

@adacoleman cross petitioning as in 'i don't agree to this divorce' or 'im a petty twat who wants to still show you I'm the boss'.

DH's ex wife tried to show she was still 'the boss' when he petitioned her. It must have given her a massive shock as she was a huge bully. However after she stole the dog (another story) he had had enough. She then responded by saying she agreed to the divorce but he had done X and Y. I can just see the eye rolls of the court staff reading that petty piece of shit.

@treacletoots I stopped taking his shit ages ago, would be nice to think of it as an after-dinner treat, some kind of mint chocolate to drink with my coffee perhaps?

@muppetry76 Laxative in their chocs perhaps?

Mine tried not responding. He was stupid enough to send me an email stating out in full that he had received the papers but would not sign them because he disagreed with my reasons in terms of his unreasonable behaviour. All I had to do was point out to him that I could send this email off to prove he had received the papers. He caved.

I got a bailiff involved
The papers got signed quite quickly after that