My partner sent a photo of his best friend's wife to a couple of his friends in a group chat. The photo was taken from her Instagram. She's really attractive, and was doing some sort of sexy pose in the photo.
He sent this pic to a couple of his friends, along with messages along the lines of "look at this, would you let your missus post photos like these on the internet?"
I found out about this because he accidentally showed the photo to me on his phone. I didn't even see it but he thought I had, and then didn't want to tell me what it was. He initially just asked me to trust him and not ask what it was, but I said I wanted to know, so he told me about sending the photo to his friends, and he showed me the photo.
He's made several comments to me about her before and how he would not be okay with his "missus" posting photos like that (she quite often posts photos like that). I asked him if he's sent his friends photos of her before and he said one other time.
He said he knew it'd be a big thing if I found out so he had already deleted the image on WhatsApp (but wouldn't show me the messages), but he forgot to delete the photo off his phone. His attitude seems to be that he thinks he screwed up because he didn't hide the evidence well enough. I told him it was a shitty thing to do and he apologised from "a moral point of view" and said he wish that he hadn't done it and that I hadn't seen it.
He's commented on her photos a number of times to me, always along the lines of not understanding how her husband could possibly be okay with her posting photos like that. And he's mentioned it a few too many times for me, and every time he does I feel uncomfortable, it's none of his business and why does he care? As far as I know she's in a really solid relationship with her husband, and they are both friends with me and my partner.
I feel weird about it, I know it could have been worse but I just feel like it's a bad sign, and the fact that he seems more put out by the fact that he didn't delete everything properly.
I've been trying to talk to him about it but he's obviously only looking at Messenger between playing games of Call of Duty with his friends and ugh, even as I type this I know how pathetic this sounds, sorry. What am I doing. If anyone is still reading, please give me some perspective on this.
TLDR: partner sent sexy photo of his friend's wife to his friends (from her Instagram account), he knew I'd be upset if I found out, which I did because he accidentally showed me the photo on his phone. He's being defensive about it and is annoyed that it is making me question my trust in him.