Trigger warning- child abuse
Sorry for the dodgy title. I couldn't figure out how best to word my problem.
Somebody close to me was horrendously abused as a child. They are about 30 years older than me and grew up in a place where child abuse was common. I have led a very privileged life in comparison.
The person has managed to come to terms with what happened to them, but I just can't. I think about it all the time. I sometimes burst out crying when it pops into my head. I know it sounds awful, but I want to move on. The person who abused my family member is long dead, so there will never be a court case or similar. I don't want to talk to said family member about the abuse either as I think it will hurt them.
Does anyone have any advice for how to move past trauma that you didn't directly experience? 