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unhappy in relationship

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lise29 · 22/09/2007 08:13

hi everyone im new here as youve already guessed.
Im very confused and unhappy been with same fella for 10 years lots happened since then! had baby fella then cheated when baby was 3 was so awful didnt think could get through it but carried on like you do.Then in 2005 left him was very lonely and still saw him and surprise surprise got pregnant and moved home.Had the baby who is now one.But we dont get on we shout and swea at each other all the time sometimes we even fight,but i dont feel strong enough to leave someone help me?

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harleyd · 22/09/2007 08:18

not good for the kids to grow up in an atmosphere like this. not good for you either. if its at the point where you are physically fighting i think you need to break away from it. you will find the strength to do it for your kids

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lise29 · 22/09/2007 08:20

Thanx I know thats what ive got to do.But i just think where am i going to live and i wont have no money and be on my own rest of my life.

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anorak · 22/09/2007 08:25

You know really that you won't be on your own for the rest of your life, don't you? Plan it all out before you separate. Think about your own spirit, would you like to work? single parents do, I did it for five years starting when my kids were 4 and 1 and their dad did not help me financially. You have to make plans. You don't have to be trapped in a council flat living on benefits. You can break the trap. It's good to be on your own till you meet the right person. As they say, it is better to be alone than to wish you were.

prettyfly1 · 22/09/2007 12:32

i agree with the other girls. I work full time and attend college. money can still be tight but my son and i have a good life and are getting there. i would rather scrub floors then let my son grow up in that kind of atmosphere and i would prefer to be alone forever then with someone with whom i argues and fought and swore at and didnt like. its not always easy being a lone parent but its a hell of a lot freer then being trapped in an unhappy relationship. How your life goes is up to you, but i would suggest making an appointment with a lone parent advisor at the job centre, who can talk you through your options and give you a clear picutre of where you stand. Whatever you do - GOod luck and i will be thinking of you!

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lise29 · 29/09/2007 05:31

thanks everyone for your advice. I dont know what im scared of i always put it off after the holidays after christmas that sort of thing.

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