Feeling insecure and lost

[Lunafeline]

What do you do if you still feel insecure even though someone loves you and does all they can to meet your needs? It is an equal relationship and he’s assured me that he’s happy and getting his needs met too.

Lockdown has been really hard and on top of that I’ve had some awful things happen and a really horrific incident happen just 2 weeks ago that has devastated me and my family. I’m usually pretty good at self soothing myself and don’t rely too much on others for emotional support, but right now I just feel helpless and overwhelmed. I don’t want to lose my boyfriend but I also know that if he decided he didn’t want this anymore I’d be fine in time...so what the hell is wrong with me??
Not sure if anyone can help but is anyone else experiencing the same?

Hugs. Maybe try to deal with whatever hurt you and your family without stressing about loosing your boyfriend. If he's a good egg, he'll stand by, if not, good riddance. From what you are describing, he sounds supportive, accept his support.

Maybe it's more about the horrific incident than your relationship, and you're kind of diverting your emotions cos the horrific thing is just too big?

If you're not already getting support, do you think you would benefit from counselling or medication to help you through the aftermath?

Thank you for your replies We talked again tonight and he said just as I don’t want to lose him he doesn’t want to lose me either. JustC he is supportive and you’re right, I do need to accept his support. I think because I’ve had 3 awful things happen in the space of a month it’s knocked me sideways and I’m subconsciously expecting him to run away like others have in the past. He’s not like them though and I need to remind myself of that.

Category12 that’s actually made me think, as the horrific incident is very painful. My boyfriend and friends have all said the same, it’s shocking and they’d have no idea how to come to terms with it either. So I could be diverting my emotions.

I have booked myself in with a private counsellor (won’t be able to afford weekly sessions though) but I think it’s worth the money as I’d have months to wait for nhs, I’m really struggling now and it only happened 2 weeks ago.
I am going to doctor too, as I think my mind is so clouded I may need some medication to help.

Thank you both again 😊 you have both helped me look at this at different angles.