Birthdays

[Northernsoulgirl45]

Now I not materialistic. I would be happy with a thoughtful gift of any value Last month it was my Birthday. I asked for one thing. It was more expensive than anything I would buy for myself. Dh decided that other things could do the job aswell so I got nowt for my Birthday. I was told to buy what I wanted but that was just a few token items as spending money on myself doesn't sit right.
In the interim dh! has spent about400 on himself but has still produced a Birthday list of about 10 items.
Aibu to ignore list snd say I didn't buy you anythong as you already have x which does the same!!

Does he usually buy you presents for your birthday or christmas? Sounds a bit shit really, he doesn't want to make an effort on your birthday but expects a list of presents for his

So you asked for X but he didn't because you already had something that did X so he didn't understand why you'd want them? So then told you to buy what you wanted instead? Why didn't you just buy X? Did he give you the money or was it you but it and he's give you the money back if he approved? Did he give you a budget?

Is all money shared so it the joint account?

If he can't be arsed to buy you anything for your birthday, then I would shove his list somewhere.

He produces a list???

Buy him a loo roll and tell him it looks like a list but isn't a list but does a good job..

Or roll up divorce papers and wrap up with a red ribbon..

I was told to buy what I wanted but that was just a few token items as spending money on myself doesn't sit right.

You can only blame your own thinking for this one to be honest... why didn't you just buy the thing you wanted?

Buying your own present is crap. What's the point??
Birthdays are using thought??

You can only blame your own thinking for this one to be honest... why didn't you just buy the thing you wanted?

Because it's not really about the gift itself, it's about her dh putting thought in, trying to make her smile and feel appreciated.