Baby Daddy Confusion

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Hi
I’m looking for some advice
Me & the father of my baby were just a casual thing nothing serious (neither of us were looking for anything serious) we are both private people we keep our business to ourselves.
After sleeping together the last time we didn’t really talk much the following weeks it’s just how we are we don’t feel like we need too,
Until I had to tell him I was pregnant.
I’m now 17 weeks pregnant, this wasn’t planned but needless to say the baby is loved so much already.
He’s been great through it all so far we had a few scares in the beginning and he would calm me down that things would be ok.
HOWEVER
I’m not sure if my hormones have taken over and I’m a needy little brat due to that or lockdown has made me feel a bit lonely but I’m wondering if we should just remain friends or if we spend time together and something could be there.
We have only seen each other once since that night for me to give him the scan pictures as we have been in lockdown.
I have made a joke of we could never be together I would end up killing you (not literally please No1 think I’m crazy) and his response was “yeah don’t worry that’s never going to happen” to the being together part.
Did I set him up to say that because of my comment? That sounds like he’s set on this being nothing more to me?

I didn’t see having a child with someone happening this way I thought I would be happy in a relationship with the man I was going to have my children with.
Either way we will never stop anything from letting us be the best parents to this baby.
I would like to think I tried to give my child that family home/life even if it didn’t work.

If there was nothing more than fun sex before, I think it's unlikely with the hormones and stresses of a new baby that anything will change. And if you both force it and it goes bad, you'll find Co parenting so much harder

TBH I'd keep it friendly but non-sexual. If you weren't a couple before then it's unlikely to change now. And as Sleeping has said, you'll find it much easier to co-parent if there are clear boundaries from the start.

A good home life for your baby doesn't have to mean that you are together with his or her father - as long as you are both committed to doing the best thing for your child then you'll work out a good co-parenting relationship between you.

It doesn't sound good in terms of this developing into a romantic relationship, but I think you're in a really good position to nurture your friendship so that you can have a really positive co-parenting partnership. The two of you being friends and having respect for each other is the very best thing for your child.

I would steer completely clear of a romance and concentrate on the baby.

He’s already answered your question himself.

You seem to have very passively drifted into this, op?