Suddenly stopped messaging

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We have been in contact for approx 2 weeks, both in lockdown although can do socially distanced meets (have done a couple of bike rides & a wine in the park). Texting a lot during the day and have next meeting booked in.

However haven't heard anything for 36 hours - which is fine although spidey senses are tingling.

Bad sign?

Maybe. Maybe he just wants a bit of space? I wouldn't want to be talking to someone new every single day. He could just be trying to reset the pace.

If you normally contact each everyday and it's suddenly stopped then I do think there is something wrong.

Does the last message give you a clue? did you message him last and not hear back?

If you really like him, just send him one more message, such as we we still on for the next meeting? if you don't hear back or get a enthusiastic response then you know to move on.

Possibly yes.

Don't do any message sending yourself. Sometimes no answer is your answer.

At this stage ghosting is pretty common. If it's out of character you'll probably get a couple of colder excuse type messages then silence

we are supposed to be meeting for lunch tomorrow...

I havent sent anything...

last message was some flirty texting banter early hours of Tues morning

also after every date he has been the first to text & check in... plus drive the messaging

agree that ghosting is very common

shall I assume the ghosting is coming then? and that this is a red flag

Maybe he got the impression you weren't up for anything....more? From that banter?

Just text him 'still on for tomorrow?'. The response or, lack there of should let you know where you stand.

I would at my cynical, experienced it so many times, stage. Of course there could always be a reasonable explanation. I'd probably send one chatty, light hearted message to see what response I got.

Were you the last one to message him?

I would ask

I am erring on the side of leaving it & if he is keen, he will message?

I sent a funny picture in response to something he sent so was not a question or anything

I'd just ask if we were still on for tomorrow.

I had something similar with the guy I've been seeing for 7 months. After 3 weeks, I just didnt hear from him for 36 hours and we were supposed to be going out the following night. It was the first time the plans hadn't been firmed up immediately. I'd pretty much decided it was over but sent a, "hi, just wondered if we were still on for tomorrow? If not, let me know and I'll do something else instead." He replied almost immediately and we made the arrangements.

All that had happened was he'd moved from the anxious, "Are we going to see each other again? I need to pin her down with the details to be sure," stage to the, "I know we're going to see each other, we can sort out the details closer to the time," stage.

Alternatively, he could be ghosting but I'd send a message just to he sure. If he doesn't reply to that, then you know.

Good luck.

I am erring on the side of leaving it & if he is keen, he will message?

Tbh, I wouldn't do this. It's too much like 'game playing' for me. You want to know, so I'd message.

Put the ball in his court. It's currently in neither. That's how I'd see it.

Did you message op?

I'd drop a quick text saying, hey we still on for tomorrow and leave it at that if no reply then move on.

I'm not very needy at all but if I had a date arranged, spoke regularly and didn't hear from someone for a day and a half the day before the date I think I'd assume they were backing off.

I'd either send one saying I'm planning my week - still on for tomorrow or not? Or just leave it and if he replies tomorrow morning at the last minute, say sorry I didn't think we were still on OR if you do still want to meet up say ok... but only if you want to and this hasn't massively put you off.

In my experience of dating, if they're interested they don't leave you hanging for a couple of days in the dating period especially when you have one planned.

You're too available. Available is boring

And no I would not text

hey everyone, thx for the thoughts! I got a message early afternoon checking in and we have had some chit chat since... I am assuming our date is on unless told otherwise?

Is this all ok then?

I think it is built within me to look for issues & I have had such bad luck on the dating front that am constantly looking for signs of doom...

just to add - I didn't send one myself as wanted to test the waters a little. I am into him and he has given all signs he feels similar, but guess you never know...

we were chatting about exes on the last date and it turned out she left him and it was a very serious relationship. Was over a year ago tho but did leave me wondering if he is over it

36 hours is quite a long time without contact of you've been messaging every day, he might be seeing other people which everyone will say is allowed at this stage, if you're keen I think it's ok to ask if he's just seeing you

I think it seems fine. People get busy or sometimes want some alone time, it doesn't mean they're not interested in you. If when you do message and meet you find your communication flows well then I wouldn't worry about it.

Maybe he was playing it kl and waiting for u to message?! He might have been sat in the same boat as u but he cracked first no? 🤣

For christ sake just text him still on for tomorrow

SUGARTITSS ...you are a very angry person tonight...chill hun.