Husband storms off

[MccarHM]

My husband regularly storms off (home/to the car of we’re out) and leaves me abandoned with my 2 DDs. This shows he has a short fuse but will never discuss it after and will eventually talk to everyone as if nothing happened 2 days later.

Does he do this at work? If not, you need to be able to point out that if he can control it in other environments then it's reasonable to expect him to do so at home.

It's OKish to take yourself out of a situation that you find difficult to handle, it absolutely isn't OK to go into a sulk for hours or days on end. If he hasn't got used to dealing with teenagers by now without going into a prolonged sulk, he needs to think about his own levels of maturity. I suggest you insist on him having a discussion about this - if necessary laying it on the line that it needs to be sorted out if he wants to stay married. He needs to hear from you about what a poor reaction this is, and in particular what an appalling example he's setting to your daughters, and he needs to think about what he's going to do to stop. If that means counselling, go for it and book it for him. If he's not prepared to do that, he probably does need a warning from you that you don't have to put up with his behaviour and, if he's not prepared to try to act like a reasonable, mature human being you'll be rethinking your future.

My mother used to do this. When I was younger obviously I would get upset and trail after her. These days I walk the other way and carry on with what I want to do. It’s manipulative and controlling

It’s childish and like a toddler trying to get his own way by throwing a strop. I’d say all of you leave him to it. Be extra joyful. You and your kids put music on and have a laugh. If he wants to stop and spoil the day he’ll have to do it somewhere else. It’s pathetic

My ex used to do this and I'd go after him every single time. Wish I left the fucker to it the first time he did it.

Thank you tork tork bam, your reply is what we are doing and yes I continued to chat in the car with my daughters.

Great advice lilacbeloved

@MccarHM looking back it was so degrading. I'd cry and beg for him to listen or follow him into a room or out the house. I was none the wiser.

He wants you to do that, don't let him have that control. If a grown man wants to storm out, like everyone else said, let him.

How are you all behaving at home when he's in a big baby sulk like this?

Do you tiptoe? Do you plead? Do you laugh at what a rude loon he is? Do you play nice immediately when he is ready to play nice? Is he blanking his children or just you? Will you expect them to be immediately nice to him when he stops being a dickhead? How much will he apologise for his childishness? How will be make it up to you all?

My XH used to do this. Note he is an ex.

I recommend reading 'Living with the Passive Aggressive Man' to get a handle on how manipulative his behaviour is.