I don't love him as much as he loves me

[pinkpixie83]

This has become clear over the pandemic period.

I don't know what to do going forward.

Perhaps people could offer advice if you give a bit more detail?

Do you mean that actually, you dont really love him at all? If you dont love him, leave him, and you can both get on with your lives.

I don't know.

He stayed for some of lockdown and now he's gone back to his I'm not missing him being here. I know he is missing it tho.

I have a better living situation than him, so I know that makes a big difference and he lacks friends of which although obviously I'm not seeing them currently I do have friends and we are still in contact.

I also have lots of other stuff in my life, which he doesn't.

The enforced period of him staying has shown me bad points which I don't know if I can accept full time, although I've always said I didn't want to live with anyone again.

Maybe I prefer the idea of a relationship than an actual relationship and I'm too selfish

How long have you been together?

Since October

Why was his staying ‘enforced’, what were the circumstances whereby he ended up staying at yours, even though you don’t want to live with anyone and why did he end up going home?

It’s early days, so if you are not feeling it, best to end it now.

Not enforced sorry... he stayed for some of the lockdown, normally I would only see him at weekends, we both thought him staying for lockdown made sense, although hes gone home as accepted I needed my space back.

You have your own home, he has his. It couldn't possibly be easier to end this relationship. You know it's not going anywhere so do the right thing and break up with him. All it takes is a phone call.

How old are you and do either you have kids?

Honestly, a man with few friends would be a red flag for me, because I have a good social life and want a life outside of my partner.

I'm 37 with 3 kids, he's 47 with one adult child.

It doesn't seem right to end it now, when he's already alone and low being stuck back in his flat working from home!

It doesn't seem right to end it now, when he's already alone and low being stuck back in his flat working from home!

Nonsense. You're not his life jacket, op. Him being alone and feeling low aren't your responsibility. The only reason you're putting it off is because you don't want to deal with it. You've wasted enough time already, and stringing him along is not a nice thing to do.

I know it's not easy to end things if you think you're going to hurt them or that they'll be alone, but really you're just kicking the can further along the road which isn't good for either of you.

Under a year? Just end it.

It will be better for you both in the long run. You both deserve to be with people you don't want to live without. Life is too short.

hes gone home as accepted I needed my space back.

I'm sure your kids did too. October! FFS.