Please I need advice

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Me and my ex broken up over a year ago he was caught messaging other women and sending pics of his self to them and they were sending them back I also have a male friend who I've been friends with for 7 years and my ex knows this male fancies me but nothing is going on (but if it was nowt to do with him) anyways he's always messaging me saying I think my friend is more important to me than he is what's up you messaging your fella I've had my friend around in the street social distance and he's still going mad that I've had him around I've told him I don't want him back I can't trust him I need advice also we have a child together I'm fed up of it

Refuse to speak to him about anything other than your child. Ignore any and all messages/conversation that isn’t only about your child. Hang up/ignore texts/walk away. Completely disengage. It’s the only way he’ll get the message

What would help you to feel you have more boundaries so he doesn't message about things like this?

Is there a regular contact arrangement in place for your child or do you need to message each other about contact often?

It sounds like your ex keeps tabs on you in an unhealthy way.

No there is no regular contact set up and he used to come to my house to spend time with child until lockdown so it's stops and I'm thinking he can take child out with him when lockdown is eased I mean my child video his dad every morning and because I didn't this morning cuz we fell out last night he starts with what's up your fella there that why you haven't videoed I'm fed up with it all. If he behaved his self and didn't fuck things up we would be happy he's only got his self to blame

He absolutely doesn't have the right to speak to you that way.

Would you be able to block his number temporarily if there's no contact planned, just to give yourself a break?

How old is your child? Probably time to stop carrying your ex in terms of child contact; stop letting him come to your house, let him make his own arrangements. Dont talk to him about anything that isnt about your child. Like you said, its absolutely none of his business who you might or might not be seeing.

You might find it quite empowering to remember that you dont ever HAVE to answer anyone's texts. If he sends a text asking what you're doing, you can just ignore him.

My ex was like this when we first split up. Do not engage in any discussion unless it's around your child. Even with thing's like face timing you give him a time when you will do it ect you need to set in some firm boundaries.

He needs to understand that he's not a part of your personal life. If he over steps the boundaries you can politely tell him that you'll discuss anything regarding your child, but your personal life is nothing to do with him. Just don't rise to him, I've found no reaction is better. Good luck

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