Not keen on oral after break

[NCbutnotaweirdsextroll]

Have NC but am not a weird troll.

Had always been bicurious and after my relationship broke down I started seeing women. I had 3 lesbian relationships but ultimately fell in love with a man who I was originally seeing years ago.

I love him. Sex is great but I'm finding oral sex really difficult now. It's feels really intrusive compared to oral with women.

When we had sex years ago it was different. I'm older now. My views on things have changed. My abilities have changed.

He feels insecure because I had lesbian relationships that I may be a lesbian. I am most definitely not. I want to be with him but I don't enjoy oral being pushed too far... If you understand what I'm saying? I'm trying to be tactful.

I feel if I voice this it's going to just make it more of an issue? Or should I just try and put physical boundaries up without saying it out loud?

You can’t really be in a loving relationship with someone who you can’t even talk to Surely he would want to know you now hate every moment of giving him oral as it’s too rough

@UnaCorda It's so funny because it never bothered me but these days it would infuriate me

@PersephoneandHades

You really need to have an honest discussion with him; his insecurity should not take priority over your boundaries.

This because your really going to start feeling violated

I actually find giving a man oral to be comforting. OK, maybe I was deprived of a dummy as a kid! However for me it has to be a slow and gentle thing to do. Certainly no ramming or gagging.

Maybe OP you are find it difficult having discovered feminine softness elsewhere. But the most important thing is anothet type of oral, communication.