Cross Dressing

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Fuckity Fuck.

I have been in an on and off relationship - way more on then off but we both had things to deal with and have taken two breaks. He has kids from a previous relationship (his partner died), has been working frontline, we've been living apart.

However, I've just found he's into crossdressing. And has been using the time we've not been living together during COVID to get more into it. It's mainly rubber or latex tight dresses and heels.

About five years ago (one of the breaks) I found tinder on his phone with men matching on (not women). It took ages for us to get over it and he assured me it was just a stress / curiosity thing.

I don't know what to do. I need to walk away right?

This might be a good thread to read. So you can see what you might be potentially getting yourself into.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3912086-He-wanted-to-have-sex-as-a-woman-WTF?pg=1

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3668898-trans-widows-escape-committee-3-rise-of-the-trans-widows

Yes you need to walk away! Unless of course this is something you can accept and enjoy with him which I doubt will be the case.

If he is into cross dressing he is very likely to be attracted to other men - certainly bi and possibly gay. And he has looked for male partners before. Time to move on I think.

Yes, I'd walk away.

It's good you found out before you got into real commitment etc.

I know I'll get flamed but I have to say I'd find it an absolute total and utter turn off for a man to be dressing up in latex dresses and heels, I don't find men who want to dress up as women (and a hyper sexualised, porn-y, fetish version of women at that) remotely attractive in any way. Which kind of rules out a relationship.

And it's not even "just" crosd dressing cause he's been searching for men on dating (?) sites.