Friend flirting with my husband

[ckdf1234]

My friend has been going through a tough time in her marriage lately and has told me how she doesn’t feel loved/wanted by her husband anymore. I’v been there for her and comforting her etc and she’s asked is my husband is attentive to me. I told her he was and is very effectionate towards me and we have a good marriage. I now feel like she has started to flirt with my husband because she thinks he’s a good option for her instead of her own husband. She has started texting him asking for his advice about stuff in her home that he is qualified in, she even asked him over to connect something in her house (she lives a few doors down). He actually felt uncomfortable about the text and instead of responding asked me to respond on his behalf.

Then last weekend she asked us over for a BBQ and when we arrived at 8pm at night she was in her bikini 😡 neither myself or husband new where to look. Eventually she got so cold she threw on a hoodie over herself but her arse was still bare 🙈

now to be fair I was a little jealous cause her figure is better than mine and her boobs are bigger but without sounding nasty she hasn’t got the looks. I was actually so angry at her but she made herself look stupid and desperate, even her husband commented could she not go out some clothes on in front of our guests, she just ignored him. She has now asked us over for drinks tomorrow evening and I just know she will be in the same attire. I really like this girl and we have been good friends to each other over the years but I really feel she either fancies my husband now or she wants him to fancy her in order to give her a confidence boost.

advice please, how do I tackle this without much embarrassment on either side? My husband is now afraid to be in her company incase I think he is looking at her or something 🙈

Have you spoken to your husband about it?

If he’s on the same page as you I’d reply no thanks you both felt very awkward and uncomfortable during the last get together and don’t want a repeat of it.

She’s no friend if she’s making a play for your husband.

Decline the invitation and distance yourself. If she asks why, tell her the truth. She's acting inappropriately and it has made you and your husband uncomfortable. I would also suggest to your husband that he block her on his phone because all she's doing is fishing for attention, and giving it to her will only fuel the fire. Some friendships don't last forever, and this may be one of them.

If this is recent and out of character behaviour and not likely to damage your marriage (doesn't sound like it will) I would ignore it in the hope it wears off and/or she realises she is embarrassing herself. If you want to keep the friendship, that is. We can all make a tit of ourselves sometimes. If it carries on too long or gets worse, have a word and maybe phrase it like it makes your husband uncomfortable, rather than you thinking she is trying to steal him.

Id maybe be a bit undestanding. Carry on being her friend, it sounds like she needs you. That said, you need to start calling her out on any inappropriate behaviour.

Hi there, @ckdf1234 - we've moved this to the Relationships topic and hope you get some useful support and advice.

This can't be real.

She is no friend.

How old are you all, 15?

Should be quite easy to deal with with “Socially distancing”.

Sounds very childish though :( poor woman has low self esteem - she needs some help with that.