I’m so confused by him

[DollyJM]

My ex has ignored my messages for a week but as soon as I post a story on Facebook stories he views it IMMEDIATELY and I mean instantly

He hasn’t taken “in a relationship” off of his timeline and he’s kept his relationship status hidden since I asked him if he could while we sorted things out

I’m just really confused by this? He’s kept those things and is viewing stories but just not replying to me
Will he message me again? I just don’t know?

Bump

Have you already posted about this?

How old are you? As this all sounds very immature

We don't know either! Mumsnet is fabulous for advice, but none of us are clairvoyant.

OP on the chance you're not the poster from the other thread who dumped bf during argument and is confused why he hasn't coming ruining back after she's constantly messaged him: my comment was flippant and insensitive, sorry.

Sorry, but ime if blokes want to see you they say so. If you've sent two messages and he hasn't replied I wouldn't send any more.

I don't think him viewing the story "means" anything. I certainly don't think it's some kind of coded message. Probably he happened to be on fb at the time and it popped up.

Maybe he's busy with his paper round.

Didn't we go through all this yesterday? You dumped him, he's not bothered about getting back together, leave the poor bloke alone!

Oh hun, I read through your last thread...

Take yourself of Facebook, mute him or remove him as a friend. The truth is you have no idea why, neither do we. But I do know guys do seem to take social media less serious than us ladies...

It's quite possible that none of this has registered on his radar. He hasn't thought that about changing his relationship status on FB, he hasn't thought twice about viewing your story... just because he hasn't.

You've done your bit now. He will come to you, if and when he's ready. In the meantime you need to actively try and keep yourself occupied.
I'm all for a good cry and a mope, it does help. But no more contact please. Accept the situation for what it currently is.

I know it's shit.

Nobody can possibly answer that.
That said, a good relationship is not a drama filled one. That shit gets old FAST!

@duacheapa I’ve actually just deactivated my Facebook and gone on a social media break from it, Instagram, WhatsApp. Going to do this for a week and maybe longer. I honestly can’t cope with seeing him online all the time & not answering my messages - figure this is the best way 😪

DollyJM Ah good well done, it will definitely help (though it doesn't feel like it right now).

We all have things we wished we did differently. Maybe now's the time to look at yourself, and identify the lessons you want to learn. A relationship ending; is the perfect time for some self reflection.

My ex from 2 years ago is still usually the first person to view my social media stories. I’m pretty sure he definitely doesn’t want me back! He’s just on social media a lot so I guess he sees my posts as soon as I make them.

If he's confusing you then he's not into you.

[quote DollyJM]@duacheapa I’ve actually just deactivated my Facebook and gone on a social media break from it, Instagram, WhatsApp. Going to do this for a week and maybe longer. I honestly can’t cope with seeing him online all the time & not answering my messages - figure this is the best way 😪[/quote]
This is the right choice. You are clearly overthinking things and obsessing over little things.

I haven't read your other thread but if you've messaged him and he's not replied, the ball is in his court. You need to leave him alone, give him some space and stop stalking his activity in social media.

Sorry OP , if he wanted to talk to you he would.

Sounds like he is just spending alot of time on SM and therefore there to see your stories when you post.

He may have forgotten about his fb relationship status.

You sound like you may be young, it is hard going through a breakup but I think you need to try moving on and coming to terms with it.

Viewing stories means nothing. He’s probably just on the toilet and mindlessly scrolling.