Am I being a little oversensitive here?

[outnumbered57]

Fairly new (pre lockdown) relationship and we were messaging, she made a comment about being on a work call with some Spanish people and I asked said she found them super painful & all over the place - then said "ayayay" with a jokey emoji... Left me feeling a little uncomfortable!

Am i being oversensitive? Could be a throwaway comment but I dont know her well enough to distinguish?

great thanks all - I just had another look and the message actually said with e.g. "Americans" (I'm changing nationality so it works in this context!) so not even "The Americans" who are super stressy and annoying.

Just seems like she is writing off an entire nationality? As in, I'm on a call with Americans... God they are annoying.

I will see what it is like in person when this is over. But has put me off!

I say this all the time m. Got to the shop too late, ayayay,,stumped my toes, ayayay.

It’s polite for oh ffs.

I still don't understand the issue. I don't think you can pin someone as racist based on one comment..

It's very hard to tell if she's referring to the specific Spanish people with whom she had a meeting or all Spanish people in general. That's the crucial detail really.

I’m not sure. I’ve regularly worked in global teams and there are definite cultural differences which can be frustrating to some, i think I’ve been in these conversations with colleagues.

You sound like hard work ayayay!!

It is racist- well, culturalist. Whether you're bothered about it is down to your values.

almost like a test to see if I have similar views/find it funny too?

Probably not deliberate- she probably believes what she said and assumed you wouldn't see a problem with it, because a lot of people tend to assume people hold similar opinions to them.

I am not that experienced romantically and do have a tendency to write people off too quickly

You don't know that though. In my opinion based on recent experience, if you aren't happy with something someone does, don't pursue it (except maybe with a rare few people where you see something else there that you really appreciate.)

There are plenty of people in this world, so no need to put up with things you're not comfortable with.

but none of my friends would make such a comment, to put into context

Then she's not the sort of person you'd usually spend your time with. Unless there are other things about her you really like, I wouldn't bother.