Where to go from here? What are my options?

[crosser62]

20 years in this relationship and I just don’t love him any more.
The past few months have been hard, I just work and work and work to be away.
But I’m run down and burned out with work.

2 kids together, finances ok.
I have savings but would not be in a position to get a mortgage because of my age. Wouldn’t want to rent.

Keep thinking of family that I could go to but I wouldn’t want to burden them.
I keep thinking that it would be me moving out leaving him with the kids.

Do I make a try of this? Do I cut off and go? But where to? What about the children?
Today he says he has had enough, was really upset, I felt nothing.
What the bloody hell do I do?

Please don't move out and leave the kids.

If he's had enough too, is it time for a talk about how to separate? Can you sell the house and get something smaller?

Have you enquiries about a mortgage? How old are you? How old are the children?

Mortgage would not be a sensible option, I’m too old to be taking on that kind of financial burden.
The house is the kids home, I would strenuously try to keep them in it, probably with their father.

How old are the kids?
How old are you?
I took on my mortgage at 47.
Do you have someone close by who you could go to to really think about things and get some head space?

@crosser62
I feel you!
Same boat here
Stuck wondering what the next steps are
Are you in a bought house now could you sell and share equity to down size??
I'm going between thinking about moving out to thinking I could buy him out!!
Speak to a financial advisor see what they can offer XX