So after months, if not years of marriage issues, my husband is at his parents after I refused to continue living this way. The way I see it, we have two choices, to end the relationship, or to try one last time. If I went with the second choice, I would need to see him addressing properly many of his issues, that have lead to this, namely his anger and attitude towards me which has seen him increasingly shout, swear, call me names and generally treat me like cr*p. This wasnt the case for our whole relationship, but certainly since our daughter arrived 2.5 years ago, perhaps since I got pregnant.
My question is, can he change? He has said he will get some counselling, but he said that before, the last time I asked him to leave the home and it didn't materialise. I am not confident things can change, and at 31, how long can I justify waiting around to see if it does? We were happy once, but honestly I feel like I have lost my husband, only to have him replaced with a stranger. Perhaps I didnt notice some of the issues before we had children, or maybe having children exacerbated issues that were already there.
The only emotion he seems to show to me is anger. If he is sad, stressed, tired, frustrated, it just comes out as angry, and I don't want that for the rest of my life. I know some people will ask if I'm that unhappy why am I even asking the question, but is isn't that simple! Any thoughts, experiences or advice would be greatly appreciated.